Should a 29 year old guy be with a 37 year old woman?

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Another successful Eharmony Hunny match!

As much as I slam online dating, I would recommend trying eHarmony. In fact I should also mention that the last woman I dated seriously before Mrs. GHF was in theory a perfect match. We were the same age, same interests, she was polite and well spoken, good looking and in shape she was great with children too. Unfortunately, she wasn't attracted to men and/or was not ready for a relationship and I was. Last I checked she gave up dating for good and bought a house with her best friend but the point is the eHarmony was bang on for the most part..... except for that one small detail. The third time on eHarmony I actually had the problem of getting too many messages and even ignored the person I later ended up marrying because we had few interests in common. Turns out that's a GOOD thing in a relationship.

I did find it interesting that most (80%+) of my matches were either Nurses or Teachers or something very similar. Makes me wonder if it's because those two professions are female dominated or because eHarmony matched me up with those who are caring and compassionate.

The drop in women's odds of conceiving after 36 tend to be vastly over stated.

I've heard a lot of bitter guys (the type that didn't get any dates in their teens and early 20's and spend their 30's and 40's online talking about how they only date women under 23), try to use the "older women can't start a family" line as an attack on women in their late 30's (the one's they perceive rejected them in their teens and 20's), but the reality is, while a woman's egg reserve drops off significantly after 36, it's doesn't often matter because, unlike men, where he must release millions of sperm to ensure one gets to the egg, a woman just needs to release one egg, and most pre-menopausal women over 36 still ovulate regularly. If a woman has her first pregnancy at 36, and has a baby every 2-3 years until about 45 (this is about the age healthy women stopped being able to conceive naturally before contraception), then that's still about 3-5 kids, and most people don't want more than 3. They also like to over state the odds of birth defects. It's true the chance of Down's Syndrome rises with maternal age, but it's low to begin with. It just goes from very unlikely, to unlikely, and the odds of other birth defects actually decreases with maternal age, but increases with paternal age.

Anyway, my point is, women in their late 30's and early 40's can often start families with no problems.

FWIW I didn't say it was impossible just that it's harder. I think most guys that go with significantly younger women probably are doing it because they find them more attractive & like the power they wield over them rather than simply wanting somebody to start a family with while young woman is probably not as attracted to the older man as she is his money. Younger guys are definitely attracted to mature women but most of those women probably don't see them as relationship material the same way a guy who finds younger women attractive might. I dunno, it's just my explanation or rationalization of the double standard.

If you like them and go well together, I think that's all that matters. The only risk with big age differences is that people tend to be very different outside of personality and interests. No matter how emotionally mature, a 20-year-old won't have a 40-year-old's priorities or life experiences.

Damn it! I was hoping age had made her infertile so I wouldn't have to have kids.

condoms and birth control also work for that....

That said if you're not interested in having kids probably best not to get with a woman who is.

That's the problem. Condoms and birth control don't stop women from wanting kids. I was hoping 37 would be too old to have a maternal instinct.

You're appraising people, physically, but not mentally, so far as I can tell.

There are remarks about teen K-pop singers, and whether she is capable of conception.

How did you know that she wants to start a family, and are you going to be seen as the child. Are you the object of maternal instinct.

After seeing her, I am wondering whether your looks are boyish, by comparison.

When you do the math, there seems to be a lot displacement, in the world -- in other words, when someone is satisfying an instinct or urge, in an unconventional way.

I don't know whether or not she wants to birth a child.

But, people are talking about that, like it's already a given.