Why do women like my profile then proceed to ignore me?

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It's so depressing and confusing.

It could be that they like your picture, but don't like something in your profile. It could be that the site is intentionally confusing to create interaction between users.

Have you tried messaging the ones who like your profile? maybe they are hinting they like what they see and want you to contact them(it is still a bit more typical for guys to messege females than the other way around). I mean they wouldn't click like on your profile if they were totally uninterested in hearing from you.

Unless you pay extra on OKCupid(which I am just assuming here is the site) you can't see who 'likes' you unless you like them back but if you're a guy and very few people visit your profile to begin with then it is pretty easy to deduct who. I imagine that women get 1000x times the page views and likes on top of messages they receive so they are probably a lot less likely to assign it any meaning. That site also has kind of a swipe feature where you just mainly look thru pictures and like or dislike based on pictures. I figure a lot of people don't read the profiles and just go on the pics.

Yeah and they never reply, even though they visited my profile then liked it mean minutes or hours before. 0.o

The site is intentionally confusing. You might want to see if deactivating any interlinked FB/Google/Twitter etc. social Oauth accounts & using Firefox, Opera or Chrome's 'do not track' settings helps.

Hmm then I don't know that seems odd...whenever I liked a profile but didn't send a message I liked the idea maybe it would motivate them to contact me. So yeah I don't really understand it, like why like a profile if you don't actually want to hear from them.

I once liked a guy's profile for the sole purpose that I thought he was so pretentious and self absorbed that he was comical. I certainly didn't think I was in his league nor would I have wanted to be, so I didn't contact him, only to have him contact me later for the mere fact that he couldn't understand why a woman who liked his profile wouldn't contact him (being he thought he was so great that all women should contact him).

He was handsome but certainly not my type.

So are you saying women never like guys profiles for actually liking them?

I'm certainly not good looking or pretentious.

All the women who like my profile ignore me, and so do the others mostly. So I don't get it. I'd reply to any of the women I liked if they messaged me.

I understand I'm ugly and worthless, I could see them accidentally liking me while swiping, but the ones that look at my profile first super consfuse me.

Because they are women.

==> meaning they have tons of other options on the dating site.

No, if I were saying that, I would have said so directly and unambiguously. What I say is exactly what I say.

Because they liked what you posted and didn't feel like they needed to talk to you. Why don't you start a conversation? You aren't entitled to having women.

There is someone who liked me and viewed my profile multiple times that I see once in a while irl. When I see him, even before I made a profile, he would always act indifferent towards me while acting friendly towards other people. I thought it was really strange when I found out that he liked me.

He said that he DOES message them. And they don't reply to him.

They don't like what he 'posted', they like his profile.

Liking someone's profile on a dating site is generally seen as an indicator that you're interested in getting to know someone better.

To like his profile and then ignore him when he does message them is extremely rude - they may as well had never liked his post in the first place and not give him the wrong idea.

It's just like the women who flirt with a man in real-life and act like they're interested, but then ignore him or reject him when he tries to ask her out on a date.

Leading someone on is generally considered rude in real life, so it should be just as rude online too.