Let's break a taboo: Guys, do female FRIENDS ever initiate..

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....a chat/text with you? Like a Hello or Good morning just for the sake of it (and not for a purpose like organizing a party or outing)?

In my experience, only those who had a sexual/romantic interest does so to me, but not those who have no interest of that nature in me.

No... wait there is one married female friend who have asked me questions, but that is work related stuff. So I guess that doesn't count.

Nobody speaks to me, to speak have a conversation with me, except for this one female colleague. I guess it doesn't exists in my case then.

Maybe there is another one, much older, but only because I initially started speaking to her. Now it is casual conversation in the work kitchen place.

Female friends not interested on dating really like to.keep their distance.

No one on.one hangouts.unless she's lesbian or a cool tomboy type chick (super rare)

First texts? Rarely/never, maybe one every 2-3 months. "Hey"

Also never likes any social media content except for high school graduation pics.

Actually, I DO have one of those! lol

When I discuss my past relationships, there are six girls that I can compare or relate pretty much any discussion to. One of those ended up being a gold digger who was particularly heinous. Like, all sweet and innocent, kind, loving...and then for no apparent reason she'd ghost me. And then she'd show up again out of the blue and we'd be friends again. Things would get serious, and when I got low on cash she'd dump me. The second time she dumped me, she married this other guy (parents were loaded), they divorced soon after, she went wild and got pregnant by some other guy, and ended up marrying a writer.

The point being given how "niiiiiice" she is and how fiiiiiiiickle, I'm not interested in her the least little bit. I LIKE her, I just can't be around her.

Now, what will happen is she'll randomly respond to something I put on G+. She seems to have a 3-response limit before she crawls back under her rock and ghosts me again. In every case, she always messages me first. Back in the day that would drive me nuts, the whole push/pull thing she does. Now I just think it's funny. We no longer live anywhere close to each other and I'm not interested at all in reconnecting. But every now and then she just randomly does that. I'll accept her tentative friendship and be civil to her. But her behavior strikes me as bizarre.

I don't have any friends that are women. The men pretty much never initiated with me though. So whatever point you're trying to make I don't see it.

I don't know if this is a particularly useful case study group.

Yes. All the time, my best friend is female and I never text or call her, she's always the one contacting me.

Does she have someone?

Do you ever intiate a texting with a guy friend with whom you have no romantic interest?

Yeah, she's got a live-in boyfriend, in fact several over the years I've known her. Not every relationship between the sexes is based on sexual interest.

That reminds.... I do have a female friend who started initiating texting with me; but she only started doing so after she got married for a while.

She never did so when she was single, she even refused to share me her phone number. -.-

Yeah. You

Ok you win That was a good comeback, a KO.

But to be fair; you don't do that so often - and I am just an online overseas buddy....

So you probably find me safe for not giving me any wrong impression.

So nope, probably not the same thing.

lol sorry, I couldn't resist.

I'm not at all a good example, I hate messaging people and I only usually do it if I have an excuse, i.e. I'm organising something.

I'll only message my sister and a couple of close friends for random chats about things.

I would be too scared to message a guy that I liked.

Holy wow I think that's the funniest thing I have ever seen here.

For me, both. I've had female friends who initiated chats with me and women who initiated romantic interest in me. The girl I dated today contacted me first. She also planned our date. I love it when girls have initiative.