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Yes is a list of what we share. No is what we do not share. You will enjoy those things with someone else.
Yes: dogs, acoustic music, soft caressing touch, kissing, hugs, short slow walks on the beach or in the forest, sitting near the river, watching the sun on the water, films with closed captions, reading the same book (reincarnation, science fiction), cuddling with clothes on, photography, meditation, singing, non-denominational spiritual practice, sun-gazing, writing. 420, live in Eugene or Springfield, OREGON. A few pounds overweight, disclosed disability and imperfect health are okay.
No: overnights, sleeping together, marriage, threesomes, FWB, casual sexual encounters, monopolizing one another's time, jealousy, tobacco, alcohol, GMOs, TV, camping, fishing, hunting, motorcycles, out of County, out of state, assumptions, you do not boss me around, manipulate, or try to force unwanted services and "classes" on me nor do you retaliate when I politely decline. Not more than 50 pounds overweight. No SM, and no requests for me to "obey." Also, no prepared scripts or costumes, cats, rats, snakes.
We have open hearts. We walk our talk. We do not assume, we ask. We don't lie to ourselves or blame others nor do we purposely deceive others. We don't make any assumptions or take anything for granted. We practice gratitude together. You are sensitive to my needs and hold those needs in equal balance with your own. You communicate to me what your most urgent needs are and you wait for a response. If I cannot meet your every need we will explore ways you can meet your needs until we agree. For instance, I am very sensitive to sound. You use email primarily for communication when we are not face to face, you know that I cannot try harder to understand what I cannot hear and need to see. You will remember reading this and not yell at me or tell me I am not listening after you have my attention. You understand that a continuing relationship depends on mutual balanced respect for one another. You understand that deeds and actions lead to respect and trust, not words. Don't tell me, show me. I will do the same.
You are smart but more importantly you have learned from your past so you are wise.
Because of the conversations I've had on first dates over the past few months I need a disclaimer here: You have a stable income. You can comfortably pay for half of our expenses on dates and beyond. You do not expect me to move in with you after a week or two. You are not answering this ad primarily to get sex. You are not focused on sex, you want it but within the context of a primary committed relationship. You do not get drunk, snort, shoot, stab, tattoo, yell, steal, lie, hit, punch, strangle, gamble, threaten, manipulate, commit adultery, protolyze or expect me to do those things and you are not an ex-felon. You might enjoy the following but you are not seeking in me a motorcycle riding companion, a tent camping, or hunting buddy. I can sleep in an RV that has 110 volts, but not in a tent. Fishing is a maybe. Kayaking and canoeing also maybe but not white river rafting down a water fall. Cross country skiing but not downhill. Lap swimming in private pool or lake. Possible lap swim in public pool if you go with me. Pool with cues on a table in a quiet room not in a noisy bar. Darts or archery maybe. I can walk about half an hour but not all day. I am not going to try to keep you from watching a game but I probably won't watch with you and live games are too loud for me, I would be there before and after the game to share your other interests. Circus rather than amusement park or video game. Sport of any kind even if I have to sit and watch is better than video game. Video game is okay in moderation like alcohol. You read. You enjoy nature and you are patient enough to walk slowly and rest often when you are with me. You might use medical services but you don't push them on me. You never rush. You do not use scented products but you smell great to me. You are 420 friendly. I use cannabis for chronic sciatica and have for over 20 years. You love my dog as much as I do. Your cell phone is either turned off or does not ring when we are together. This may seem like a daunting list but I don't expect perfection. If by now you shake your head muttering, "no way" or something even more negative, go in peace and scroll to the next craigslist advertisement please. I am seeking one special person. I know I will have to meet many incompatible but perhaps interesting people first. We will know one another when we meet or first connect.
Together we practice mutual acceptance, non-judgmental wise funny imperfect eccentricity spending the rest of our days together sharing what makes us happy, what we see as beautiful and harmonious. I am not selling anything. I am not inviting physical intimacy without love. Love takes time. I am offering my focused love and affection. It's all I've got. I believe in God not in organized religion. I believe in karma and in power of mind. Although it would be nice, I don't need a sugar daddy. I am seeking companionship, meaningful communication, intelligence, empathy, affection, not co-dependency or domestic drama. For me, affection often leads to more affection not to sex directly. Connection and conversation, companionship and safety are priorities. If you have read this far, and you are sincere, please respond with a short message and photo telling me about yourself. I will respond to all sincere men who offer a photo. We can talk after you respond in writing and we can meet at either Island Park or Shari's on Q Street near Pioneer Parkway/Safeway. If you are not sincerely interested in me as I am with my imperfections, please go in peace and just scroll by. There is someone special out there for each of us. There is no reason to create "drag" by sending negative comments. Each of us is as God made us. I am an older lady with a flexible mind but I am not without my particularities. So be it. You don't need to change anyone to find a match. What you seek also seeks you.
01 Oct 2017, 4:25 am
