Could you date someone who's allergic to your pet?

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Assume you have a pet and you start dating someone and it turns out they're allergic to your pet. Either you have to get rid of it or they won't be able to date you. What do you do?

It's actually a difficult question.

I certainly wouldn't get rid of an honored pet just because my lover is allergic to it.

I haven't had a pet in years and am not interested in getting one, but if I had one... I don't think I'd give away the pet just to be with a man, at least if I find out he's so badly allergic before things get serious. I don't think I'd let myself get too attached to a man if I knew that to be with him I would have to give up something very important to me, in this case a pet... but then again, it's hard to control who one falls for. Maybe I would fall for a guy like that and had to make the choice... but I don't know what that choice would be.

Not unless they (without any prompting) expressed an eagerness to seek treatment for their condition.

On my POF advanced search tab I can search for women with cats, dogs, and birds. Or no pets.
It comes right after height, religion, and ethnicity so it is really high up on the list.

For me, "must love my dogs" is WAAAAAAAAAAY before height, religion, or race. None of those other things matter with the right person. The dog thing is a deal breaker for me though.

Why is nearly every woman a dog person?
So much for the generalization that women prefer cats.

I dislike dogs. I can put up with cats, they aren’t digusting and they don’t like me, or hump me.

Sometimes, there's just no treatment for allergic reactions, sort of epinephrine.

You can lessen the effect of the allergic reaction----but you can't "cure" it.

I'm a cat person but I worry if I tell girls I'm a cat person they'll think I'm unmanly. Since nearly every girl is a dog person if I tell them I'm a cat person it will seem to them like they're more manly than me.

I’m a Wolfman——and a cat person.

I'm allergic to cats & my girlfriend had one when we got together & still has one. I have bad allergies in general thou & I take a couple meds daily for em & have a couple other things on hand for as needed. I would never consider asking her to get rid of a pet simply cuz I'm allergic to it. She's allergic to cats too but always put up with it & started taking a couple meds after we got together & also has a couple for as needed cuz she has asthma that's made worse by allergies. She's even more allergic to rodents thou but she didn't know that till we had moved in & I had brought my chinchilla up here. We have a guinea pig now thou & she's allergic to him too & she was also allergic to the rabbit we had for 3 months. We're also both allergic to the hay that the rodents ate/eat. Allergies never stopped her from spending time with the animals & my allergies never stopped me from spending time with the cats thou I'm not that big a fan of cats & much prefer dogs.

This is a difficult one. You would have to let your partner go if you can't give up your pet and put it this way, what if things didn't work out between you two, then you have gotten rid of your pet for nothing. Kids are different.

I would think that if you discarded your beloved pet in favor of a new beau, it would show this prospective partner your true regard for loved ones in your life. If this partner is worthwhile, they would never expect such an act from you. If the partner is ok with it, it would be informative: they are not the right person for an animal lover.

That’s how I got my beautiful ten year old kitty. Her original owner started dating someone who had a dog. He gave up his cat so that they could date. I don’t know if she was allergic, but the cat didn’t like her dog.

It can work, but would be difficult. As an animal lover, I would find it a hard situation. Some people take antihistamines for this. But if they don’t want to, there are compromises like not living together or occasionally taking an antihistamine, as I don’t want to live with a partner it might be okay.

Getting rid of the animal is out of the question, I’m not distressing my pets or forcing them out of their home for romance.

I’m not a dog person. I love dogs, but I probably wouldn’t own one. I find a lot of people think it’s trendy to have dogs at the moment. I have always been a cat person.