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ZachGoodwin
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06 Jan 2018, 10:03 am

I have this strangest feeling while I'm around women they always seem to want the opposite. I think it may have to do with my personality being completely different from the majority. But for some reason when I see another guy speaking my same believes and trying the same jokes I invoke, that guy get's the reaction I am looking for. Thus unfolds melodrama which I know I'm terrible at handling.



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06 Jan 2018, 10:46 am

Yep. I get that. Men saying the same thing I say, yet the women responding to the other guy, rather than to me.

You know what? The woman who doesn't respond to you is not the right woman for you.

Just keep plugging away, and don't adopt an idiot ideology. The right woman will reveal herself to you, provided you don't screw it up by making assumptions about women.

Don't try be James Bond. You'll look stupid. Many women don't like James Bond types, anyway.



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06 Jan 2018, 10:52 am

ZachGoodwin wrote:
I have this strangest feeling while I'm around women they always seem to want the opposite. I think it may have to do with my personality being completely different from the majority. But for some reason when I see another guy speaking my same believes and trying the same jokes I invoke, that guy get's the reaction I am looking for. I'm not trying to be James Bond, but it does confuse me whenever there is someone who is a bit nerdy and outcast like that the women in my view seem to be sympathetic but disagree and agree with the opposite of what I intended to say. Thus unfolds melodrama which I know I'm terrible at handling.

I think women who have a fire and brimstone attitude who are very realistic were extremely helpful in my life in getting myself together to prevent me making another mistake. The problem is that I just want a casual pleasant conversation that doesn't derail in getting well... Too stupid looking and pointless.



It’s good that you are finally realizing these stuff.



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06 Jan 2018, 10:58 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Yep. I get that. Men saying the same thing I say, yet the women responding to the other guy, rather than to me.

You know what? The woman who doesn't respond to you is not the right woman for you.

Just keep plugging away, and don't adopt an idiot ideology. The right woman will reveal herself to you, provided you don't screw it up by making assumptions about women.

Don't try be James Bond. You'll look stupid. Many women don't like James Bond types, anyway.


Thank you Kraftiekortie.



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07 Jan 2018, 5:03 am

For some reason these Asian girly girls want me to be a girly man.


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07 Jan 2018, 5:22 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
For some reason these Asian girly girls want me to be a girly man.



That’s opposite to my experience; what do you mean by a girly man?



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07 Jan 2018, 5:32 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Don't try be James Bond. You'll look stupid. Many women don't like James Bond types, anyway.


Women who like James Bond usually don't live long.


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07 Jan 2018, 5:34 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
For some reason these Asian girly girls want me to be a girly man.


My wife is Asian, and that definitely doesn't describe her.


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07 Jan 2018, 6:06 am

Just my luck to get a girly one. She wants me to watch romance movies, she keeps pointing out cute things from children's movies, etc. At one point she attempted to put her lipstick on me. My attempts to turn her into a tomboy have not been successful.


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07 Jan 2018, 6:45 pm

Yeah. I want a hippie.


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