Ridiculous teenage relationship issue

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I have been dating a girl for.. Well not very long, possibly 3-4 months now. Things are going well, but she cannot help herself but to describe me with such words as ignorant, arrogant and insensitive. Sarcasm or not I'll never know. To the point, on monday (I saw her last on thursday the week before) she acted very indifferent, somewhat appearing flirtatious with her close male friend. On the bus journey home, I asked her to come with me and she answered simply with "I have some work to do" and I admit my reaction was juvenile. She was hardly even speaking to me. Moments afterwards she asked if I were offended and asked me to come with her, so I did. Now... We walked to the park.. She continued with the somber expression as we walked to the park and avoided any form of contact or communication. We got to the bench and sat down, after a short while of talking, she kissed my neck and suddenly became animated. Is she playing games with me? What does this even mean?

She kissed you and then turned into a cartoon? I'd say you're getting mixed signals.

Blecch.... some sort of head-games. I couldn't tell you what it means, but considering she's hurling insults at you, playing hot-and-cold, flirting with other men in front of you...

...I dunno'... sounds like you're getting a raw deal.

You should talk with her about your insecurities. It's possible she's not that bad.......just drawn that way.

^^^ You're having fun with that "animated" description, aren't you?

I don't know........For some reason I'm picturing "Who Framed Roger Rabbit."

So, did you bone her or not?

She's interested.

But you need to act quickly.

I think she's trying to find out how much you care for her.

The thing is, we aspies don't give off the right signals, which means that we can be in love with someone and think our love is clear when actually it's not at all. I reckon she was interested at first, but because of the wrong signals, she's not at all sure how much you like her.

I don't like the sound of the head games, but without knowing her I can't judge whether she's being manipulative, or whether she just has her own insecurities.

If you like her, and don't think she's being deliberately manipulative, try setting up a long date together. Maybe include a nice dinner and see if you can talk to her about it, and see if you're on the same wavelength. Don't delay, though, because it sounds like she's uncertain and you might lose her.

Long term, if she's insecure, you'll need to be careful that you are capable of providing the amount of attention she needs, and that she knows your AS limitations, but I wouldn't worry about that right now. If you're interested, just show her that, and see how it goes.

Not that I know much about romance, I might have got it all wrong

^ Be careful with this thread, it's an antique.

Oh, how strange. I'm sure I wasn't looking through old threads, I assumed it was a new one. Woops.