Women asking guys out?

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I can see how you would see it that way. I was not claiming that handsome single men are more likely to be sociopaths though. Good looking charismatic people, by virtue of the fact that they easily attract other people, are just more likely to not be single for long. Perhaps he is between relationships or perhaps he has some anti social traits that keep him single and it doesn't hurt for people on the spectrum to be aware that possibility.

Funny how a guy being single in his 30's has got people automatically suspecting he's some kind of sociopath. And you all wonder why people like Sly are so worried about their potential futures.

It's just that I've never seen him show any signs of interest in me beyond classmates, which leads me to think there might be good chance he hasn't noticed me that way. When we first met, he was surprised when I mentioned that I was 25 years old. He seemed to think I was a good deal younger.... (I am an extremely petite girl with a young, childlike face, and people tend to mistake me for a college freshman/recent high school graduate.) Also, when we were rehearsing once, he said he was having trouble finding the character that day because he was feeling "shy and inhibited" around me. I've been working a lot on my social skills this past year, but that little piece of feedback has me worried. Maybe I do something without realizing it that makes him uncomfortable and ill at ease....

He is one of the most passionate and dedicated artists in the class and the worst thing I could do, obviously, would be to f**k everything up and lose him as a scene partner.

Funny how a guy being single in his 30's has got people automatically suspecting he's some kind of sociopath. And you all wonder why people like Sly are so worried about their potential futures.

Actually, it was said that something might be wrong if a good looking and very charismatic guy in his thirties was still single, not if a guy in his thirties was still single. After all it's pretty natural to assume that someone who one considers awesome would have many people interested in him.

Not that I really agree because even the most perfect men (and women) can have many reasons for being single. Maybe he has recently broken up with someone, maybe he's too busy to meet people, maybe he's not really good looking or charismatic in anyone else's eyes, maybe he has a really bad personality outside of the acting class, maybe he's interested in someone at waiting for the right moment to make a move, maybe he's homosexual or perhaps not interested in relationships at all.

Actually, it was said that something might be wrong if a good looking and very charismatic guy in his thirties was still single, not if a guy in his thirties was still single. After all it's pretty natural to assume that someone who one considers awesome would have many people interested in him.

Not that I really agree because even the most perfect men (and women) can have many reasons for being single. Maybe he has recently broken up with someone, maybe he's too busy to meet people, maybe he's not really good looking or charismatic in anyone else's eyes, maybe he has a really bad personality outside of the acting class, maybe he's interested in someone at waiting for the right moment to make a move, maybe he's homosexual or perhaps not interested in relationships at all.

I have a huge crush on someone in my acting class. I'm 25 and he's 33. This man is seriously everything.... not only is he handsome and brilliantly talented, he is by far one of the most interesting people I've ever met (very sensitive and unique spirit) and he's also just a very warm, generous guy. The level of detail in the work he brings in every week is inspiring to me, and I'm pretty overwhelmed by how incredible he is. Every time I see him, I become more and more attracted to him and it's reaching a point where I feel like I should probably do something about it. However, I'm feeling stuck because I don't know if making a move (me being female) is a very good idea. If I suddenly started texting or calling him in a social manner or asking him out to go places, I'm afraid he'd find it weird and creepy, and not want to work with me again. He is one of the most passionate and dedicated artists in the class and the worst thing I could do, obviously, would be to f**k everything up and lose him as a scene partner.

I first met him about 4 months ago at the start of the fall semester. Though he is gregarious and connects with people well (he works as a waiter), I get the sense from talking to him that he isn't the most confident guy on the planet. He definitely doesn't have great self-esteem, but I don't know if that would necessarily affect him in a dating context. If he were interested in me at all, wouldn't he have reached out to me outside of class (separate from the work we've done together) at some point? No guy has ever shown even the vaguest interest in me before (I've never had a boyfriend or anything remotely close) and I don't see why he should be any different.

Does he know you are on the spectrum?

I told him about it, but I'm not sure that he knows what autism actually entails. I don't think most people do.

Great, it sounds like you are good friends already, so do you think you will go for it?

I can see how you would see it that way. I was not claiming that handsome single men are more likely to be sociopaths though. Good looking charismatic people, by virtue of the fact that they easily attract other people, are just more likely to not be single for long. Perhaps he is between relationships or perhaps he has some anti social traits that keep him single and it doesn't hurt for people on the spectrum to be aware that possibility.