Wants to come over on first date?

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09 Jan 2018, 10:54 am

I had a date set up to go see a movie tomorrow. She just texted me to ask if I had the new Spiderman movie. I told her I did and she asked if instead of going to the theater I could just pick her up and bring her to my place so we could watch it there. We have never met in person before. Yesterday she made a passive remark about wanting to cuddle. She says she wants a real relationship not a hookup though. Should I be worried?

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09 Jan 2018, 11:01 am

Make sure you have a condom.....

Make sure she doesn't try to move in with you (unless you want to live with her).

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09 Jan 2018, 11:37 am

Yeah that's not where I want things to go on the first date. IMO anyone who wants sex on the first date isn't looking for a serious relationship like she says.

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09 Jan 2018, 11:42 am

If it's just sex, and she's attractive, why not go for it? (but use protection!)

And make sure she doesn't see any of your important papers.

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09 Jan 2018, 11:55 am

Because I don't want just sex. I want a relationship not to sleep around.

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09 Jan 2018, 12:05 pm

FunkyPunky wrote:

Because I don't want just sex. I want a relationship not to sleep around.

She wants a serious relationship as much as yourself from what it looks like, so it's a win-win. Anyway if I can give you any advice, keep your eyes and ears open for anything suspicious like ... she still being in your place by Friday. Talks of moving in with you next week because "she can't stand the place she lives in right now". Sudden, unexpected, mysterious pregnancy. That kind of stuff.

Last but not least, with all your heart, resist to the temptation of doing it without a condom.

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09 Jan 2018, 12:07 pm

There's nothing wrong with a booty call.

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09 Jan 2018, 1:30 pm

That’s always a warning sign for me, but I’m female. Why don’t you just say you would rather go to the movies?

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09 Jan 2018, 1:38 pm

Save money and watch Spider-Man on your couch.

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09 Jan 2018, 1:40 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

That’s always a warning sign for me, but I’m female. Why don’t you just say you would rather go to the movies?

She woukd end it on spot because she would feel not attractive enough to him or think of him as gay or asexual.

Even if her interest is genuine, she would move on to the next hot guy in her inbox.

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09 Jan 2018, 1:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

That’s always a warning sign for me, but I’m female. Why don’t you just say you would rather go to the movies?

She woukd end it on spot because she would feel not attractive enough to him or think of him as gay or asexual.

Even if her interest is genuine, she would move on to the next hot guy in her inbox.

*shrug* okay. Maybe she isn’t what he is looking for then.

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09 Jan 2018, 1:52 pm

If the problem isn't that you're afraid of being in a non public place alone with her but the idea of meeting at your place then you could ask her if you could go over to her place and you could watch the movie there.

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09 Jan 2018, 1:59 pm

Fireblossom wrote:

Sounds more like he just doesn’t want to be used for sex. It’s a bit of a weird request for someone who doesn’t just want sex. But if she’s someone who wants sex only, postponing it by not meeting at his house is unlikely to change it, I guess.

Maybe he should just let her come over and see what happens.

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09 Jan 2018, 2:01 pm

She wants the D. Give it to her.

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09 Jan 2018, 2:04 pm

Buc wrote:

She wants the D. Give it to her.

I WANT MORE THAN SEX. Please stop.

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09 Jan 2018, 2:07 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

That’s always a warning sign for me, but I’m female. Why don’t you just say you would rather go to the movies?

She woukd end it on spot because she would feel not attractive enough to him or think of him as gay or asexual.

Even if her interest is genuine, she would move on to the next hot guy in her inbox.

I would just put it in and move on.

I honestly wouldn't want a relationship with someone who wants to have sex on the first date tho.

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