am I the only dateless guy that enjoy talking to the ladies

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even though, no women ( well, no nt women and most non-nt women) would ever date me.
I still enjoy talking to them.
I always try to find some new woman to talk to.
with the gym and other places I go to. I talk to tons of ladies, they are fun talk to.
of course, at times I do run into cranky ones.

I doubt I will ever date again, but that don't mean, I have to totaly avoid women
and not talk to them. nothing wrong with female companionship.

I enjoy talking to women when I get a chance. 99% of the time they never show any interest in talking with me. Back in school I talked and had aquaintences, but now in life I haven't had a female friend in over 10 years.

That's good billiscool, but don't write yourself out of the dating game straightaway. The Question is do Girls enjoy talking to you? If they do, you never know that a girl might take interest in you, you just don't know. But enjoy other aspects of them.

Throughout my life, girls and women have always been my most trusted friends. When I'm not being paranoid, I have have lots of female and male friends, but they are what I call context friends, and anymore they are almost exclusively co-workers. I see them at work, and that's it. I would much rather hang out with the women, especially if they are married, because then there is no mistaking my intentions. I am also interested in their relationships with their husbands. Out of the dozens of co-workers I know, only two people come to my house, and they are who I would consider my closest friends. They are both female.

I enjoy talking to women when I know they're married or in a relationship. Available women give me anxiety that I'm gonna blow it or act like an idiot (which is most of the time), so I'm learning to just avoid the situation altogether, and just focus on being a friendly person.

No, I generallly enjoy talking with guys more due to shared interests; women's typical topics on the other hand bore me to tears.

Hence why I did the conversation thread where only one member could contribute

I tend to find talking to men boring, while in my experienemthe women I talk to actually have conversations that make you think.

From my experiments, I mean experience, most women rarely argue with me about much (I'm excluding women as old as my mother), and they are more pleasant to have a relaxing conversation with. Most men, on the other hand, always have to feel they have to dominate the conversation and it bugs me to hell when they do that while spouting conspiracy theory rubbish and all that.

obviously you guys don't have nerdy buddies

Exactly.



I do. There are two guys I work with. One is always asking me to come over to his house to play RPG games, and the other guy has invited me to his house on a couple occasions. The first guy is really nice, but the social situation gives me pause. The second guy, I have less of a problem with going to his house. I have cat sat for he and his wife, and though he does not have an ASD, he has a lot of interests and quirks. His wife does not mind a person with a few quirks.

I also know another couple I use to hang out with a lot from the late '90s to around 2006. He is Jazz composer/musician, and his wife, who use to work with my ex-wife. They use to invite me over for diner all the time. Super nice couple. They helped me a lot during a very troubling period of my life.

I enjoy conversations. They are meant to be fun at the surface level. Getting to know people can be exciting.

Bill, you are definitely not the only one in this regard.

C'mon man, not all the ladies in Leb are boring harpies, surely? You not thought that a lot of women might be putting on appearances but in fact might have a more independent character than you'd think?

Sure there's nothing happening?

Ach, perhaps all the nice women have been taken.

I'm also a single guy and the only people I enjoy spending time with and talking to are women around my age. Some are single and some are in relationships but it doesn't make much different to me although I tend to be a little more distant towards girls in relationships because I'm afraid their boyfriend might be the jealous type and beat me up thinking I'm trying to steal their girl when I'm not. That being said, the best friendship I currently have is with a girl who has a boyfriend.

I prefer spending time with single girls because I enjoy the idea of hoping one of them will decide they want a relationship with me. Most girls trust being alone with me because they come to realize I have no romantic or sexual intentions while spending time with them. I also tend to be a good friend "match" for the girls I spend time with, as nearly all of them have told me they hate spending time with other girls and prefer having guys for friends. I'm the exact same way because I hate having guys for friends and strongly prefer female companions.

I am sort of the same way. Not saying no woman would date me, but dating has not worked for me, and I'm reevaluating my approach and not currently looking.

Not at all. I'd say I'm about 50/50 for friends who are guys and girls. Most of the girls I'm friends with are more the "one of the guys" types, though.

Nothing wrong with being dateless. I personally abhor the idea of bein tied down to one woman.