do guys disliked girls who are sexual?

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for sexual i mean have sex on first dates, seem to enjoy it a lot and are open about things considered "taboo".
do guys really make difference between this kind of girl as someone to have fun and more "pure" girls as girlfriend?
it doesn't make sense but it seems to be a common sense

I want a woman is is open-minded, sexually and otherwise.

If a man can't deal with your honest expression of your sexuality, then he's not right for you. And what does "pure" mean? If you follow your own desires rather than someone else's, then you are pure--purely you.

I like it when a woman has assertive sexuality.

I'd like it if she would sit on my lap, and start caressing me.

It hasn't been a problem for me, but hey, I'm sure some guys don't like it.

I don't mind it when women are sexual...with me, but I find it a little off-putting when they are sexual with everybody.

I prefer girls that are less sexual but I'm sort of on the asexuality spectrum; something like demisexual. I was also "Straight Edge" for years because I was rebelling against things that my 1st girlfriend had issues with that contributed to our relationship falling apart. It was easier to blame sex, drugs, & booze than it was to blame myself for the way I handled things. I was going through a bad depression & was playing the blame game with myself & everything else. I was a virgin before I got with my current girlfriend & we've been living together for over 5 years now & probably been a couple for about 6. Part of the reason I was a virgin was because I was never really in a situation where I thought I could of gotten sex with a woman except 1ce when I was 20 with my cousin's slu*ty friend. I was with my 1st girlfriend at the time thou so I didn't but otherwise I probably would of for curiosity.
All this said, I probably would of gone out with a girl who was very sexual if I thought she was interested in me as more than a one night stand. I would of just been kind weirded & freaked out over it thou.

I hate the concept of "purity", so.... On the other hand, having no romantic or sexual experience whatsoever, I wouldn't even be able to tell the difference unless she really went out of her way to make it obvious.

It's from the STDs which I am phobically afraid of rather than moral reasons, even though honestly I did have a sex on first date though with a girl I only met once in life lol (but it was horrible because she had appointment and was so in hurry... duh).

I started sex with my 1-year-so-far girl on second date only.

In my experience, either things take off sexually very early on or there's nothing happens at all. Normal courting/dating via stages of friendship...communication....long dating....etc process never worked for me.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 15 Mar 2018, 5:41 am, edited 2 times in total.

Do I or do guys in general?
I don’t but will she be accepting I don’t want sex on first date?
From what I’ve seen a lot of men do care though and see such women as sluts who aren’t gf material. But such guys want sex so will go with it. It just becomes a one night stand.

I don’t agree with thst but I wouldn’t do sex within the first 5 dates or so. Foreplay and making out sure but not sex. I may never do sex, if I did it’d be a while until I felt secure with the woman to do it. Anxiety issues and not feeling I’m good enough and that she’d be disappointed. I feel more secure about foreplay.

STDs are a concern as well.

I’m more feminine about sex. It’s a very emotional thing for me.

This can depend on a lot for example what is meant by "have sex".

There are supposed to be heterosexual people in their 20s in the Western world who routinely hook up with others they meet in clubs and have one night stands. I have to assume such people are a.) very attractive physically and b.) very adept socially. For the rest of us, this isn't a realistic scenario.

Then there are certainly some women who are indiscriminate about whom they will have sex with due to low self esteem, loneliness etc. I don't know how many but certainly some, however such women don't really fit your description because one assumes they don't necessarily enjoy sex but do it to fulfill some other psychological need.

If a guy makes a date with somebody he just met and they end up having sex because they find themselves mutually attracted, he would have to have a serious problem (religion, misogyny) to think less of her for that reason. OTOH he will probably want to keep seeing her in fact such a situation could easily lead to a LTR. Or those two people might not decide to become a couple, but still sometimes meet for sex. I think some amount of casual sex in one's life can be a great thing, but it seems just as likely to involve acquaintance as to occur on first dates.

If you go on a date and feel a mutual physical attraction, you shouldn't be afraid to do something sexual with the guy. Even tongue kissing is sexual, in my opinion, or you can "go further" if you're comfortable doing so. But (thinking out loud here) I would hope that in such a situation you at least have some reason to think the guy will want to see you again.

EDIT after thinking about this — so far as most guys on this forum are concerned, I would say the vast majority who are not in relationships are fairly desperate, and if a girl had sex with them and said she enjoyed it, if they felt any degree of physical attraction to her, would be hard pressed not to like her. However (and this could be the issue) those same guys would not necessarily fall in love with such a girl. But "dislike"? Definitely not.

I like to just take it by ear.

I think guys usually like girls who have a bit of mojo going on. If a woman has a mojo, there's a better chance of of having a family, if you're into that sort of thing.

what is mojo?

I suggest youPM @CockneyRebel for an explanation.

It’s austin powers mouse thing. The bility to get sex. So like you’d say a really hot fit guy has lots of mojo.

Atleast that’s where I’ve heard it.

Take it my post wasn’t helpful

thanks
it is a funny word
it remind me miojo
which is a portuguese word for instant ramen