Proof overweight women are more desperate

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I met this girl on tinder about 3 weeks ago and well.. She is quite fat. This has clearly left an impact on her self esteem as she is constantly seeking validation and afraid I might lose interest on her because of her size.

Well, we were meant to meet today for the first time, already in her apartment, when I got sick and couldn't go. Somehow she felt I might have made it up and was ghosting her so she asked my address and told me she'd have a surprise.

She traveled to my home for 3 km (Yes, it's close but it was 1 am and she had never been around here), and the surprise was that she left a bagful of sweets and beer and stuff for me and a letter behind me door (she was too shy to ring the bell). Now, I must emphasize the fact we hadn't met in person yet and she was willing to buy me over 10 euros worth of stuff just like that, plus she had made dozen homemade buns.

Now, call me a cynic if you like but there's no way a normal weight and even a little bit attractive girl would do this kind of thing. They would probably EXPECT this kind of stuff from the man.

Lastly, I do feel attracted to her so I'm not using her or anything. I'm just pointing out that if you guys are tired of girls who are way too high maintenance with little in return, do consider dating the heavier chicks as they might even fight for you.

i find really mean that someone is being super nice to you and you are calling her desperate in an online forum

it's exactly this sort of logic i was addressing in my topic on difference between man and woman
man seems to be so utilitarian and judgmental

Then why you women keep throwing yourselves at men if you hate them so much?

1) i can't answer for all woman, but i'm not throwing myself at anybody.
2) i would like a relationship for... biology. but i'm honestly reconsidering it.
3) i don't hate man. but it sounds that you hate woman.

Just because I say I find inviting to house first date and giving free gift just like that pretty desperate act doesn't mean I 'hate woman' lol. You gotta admit most women would not do such things for a man just like that.

i'm a good person that in overall care a lot for people
i'm also a woman who is overweight
not all good i do for people is because i'm "desperate"
or is related to my weight or gender

when i broke my leg, all i wanted was a "desperate" person to care about me and bring me food and my medicines and help me getting water. none of my friends did it, and i actually only rely on support from people i didn't know.

maybe she had experience something like this and felt sorry for you being sick, maybe she indeed was worried about you ghosting her because she likes you, maybe she is too a loner. we can't know, but assuming the worst and making generalization that all overweight woman are this way because they are lonely are just mean.

If that's your "proof about all overweight women", OP, (sample of one, probably type one and/or type two errors of reasoning) then your standard of proof is completely evidence-free.

However I guess anyone can claim anything as "proven" in their own minds if they set the evidence bar low enough to include anything that serves the agenda.

When you have less to offer or fewer options, sometimes you have to go that extra mile to demonstrate value.

Extremely overweight or obese people of either gender obviously have lower than average dating prospects due to the masses preferring more healthy body types, and when you have fewer options, you're in no position to be picky or demanding, and you have every reason to seize whatever feasible options you have with both hands.

I don't think you need proof that overweight women are more desperate. Though I don't think it's very nice to make a thread about how she's desperate on here.

How were you expecting us to react to this?

This thread does seem mean.

I've had friends bring me a little hamper like this before, well not with beer Once in a blue moon. Like say I move to a new house or get a new job. Maybe people do this in her social circle. Tis a bit soon to do this with a new friend though.

I think I would feel a little overwhelmed if a bloke I had just met did that to me. It's a bit much. So i can understand you reaching out for confirmation on whether this is normal or not.

But I like the touch of the home made cupcakes. Yum.

Thread-lock countdown started.

I think this thread is a proof of only one thing. Whatever you say online someone will hate it.
Personally, as an overweight woman, I understand where the OP is coming from and he might not now every fat woman where he lives but his case does seem very desperate.
It's not normal to go to your tinder date's house after meeting like twice even if he is ill.
This is a massive red flag.

I fail to see how one person can prove anything Correlation does NOT imply causation. She does seem kind of desperate thou but it may have nothing to do with her weight.