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DevilMayAsian
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01 Apr 2018, 8:29 pm

I was this close to getting myself a GF. I've known a girl for five months we click, have great chemistry and have a lot in common. I let her know that I want to take it to a LTR by hugging her, and I even called her hot once. Those were both scary moves to make, almost thought I lost her by calling her that, I didn't. I thought "Well she's in to me, because the hot comment would've scared her away." So I set up a get together, and it lasted three hours. I took a selfy with my arm around her, and she put her arm around me. It went pretty well. At the end of the get together I said this:

DMA: Mind if I call you babe?

Cheryl: Let's stick to friends.

DMA: You're not ready.

Cheryl: Nope.

DMA: That is cool with me.

I talked to different people about this, half of them say "She might come around in the future, she didn't say NO or GET LOST." While the other half is saying move on. Me personally I'm taking it as if she said NO, and continue as friends. If I was her, I would've just said "No, I'll only be friends with you." If I was a woman I wouldn't enter a relationship with a guy in his 30's, who still lives with his parents, and makes mininum wage.

Why did I do than? The biological urge that alpha males feel to find a mate is extremly hard to fight.

Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought. Yes, I'm looking for love and sex. I took it slow, taking it slow is hard. Every week I was thinking this girl is probably being asked out on a daily basis. It was getting to be too much, I'm going to pull the trigger the first time we hang out together 1-on-1. So what she said caused me have emotional pain for a day, I have no hard feelings toward her. I just have low level bitterness now, which is normal to experience after something like that. This isn't the first time I tried to take it slow. She's probably experiencing similar feeling. At least the first time went far worse than this time.

I know guys who took it slow and succeeded, as of yet I'm not one of those guys. This is the second girl I've tried it on, no luck and a year wasted. I don't go to bars and clubs and try to get LTR going with the trash quality women who go to those places. I'm trying to meet someone who could be my wife.



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01 Apr 2018, 8:37 pm

What do you mean by "pull the trigger"?


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01 Apr 2018, 8:47 pm

What I meant by pull the trigger is to initiate a long term relationship.



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01 Apr 2018, 9:54 pm

DevilMayAsian wrote:
Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought.


Oh, man, that must’ve hurt.

I’ve long ago decided condoms is just about the last thing I’ll ever be caught dead buying, unless, of course, I already know for sure I’m going to have sex with someone, which, in my case, is as good as certainly never. Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.


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02 Apr 2018, 3:34 am

I'm glad to read that you took her response as a "No," because IMO it was a very polite rejection. People don't like to be direct and flat out say "No, I'll only be friends with you," because they don't like feeling like they've hurt your feelings by being honest and direct. Her response was definitely a "No," though, and you really should just go through the process of getting over romantic feelings for her and moving on.

Spiderpig wrote:
DevilMayAsian wrote:
Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought.


Oh, man, that must’ve hurt.

I’ve long ago decided condoms is just about the last thing I’ll ever be caught dead buying, unless, of course, I already know for sure I’m going to have sex with someone, which, in my case, is as good as certainly never. Don’t count your chickens before they hatch.


Meanwhile, in my reality, I buy a 12 pack and think "Hmm, like most other boxes of condoms I've bought, this likely represents another dozen partners." :P


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02 Apr 2018, 6:26 am

DevilMayAsian wrote:
Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought.

They don't expire right away.


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02 Apr 2018, 9:05 am

I’m a lot better with older women.



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02 Apr 2018, 9:46 am

Older women, in my experience, tend to be very nice in bed, indeed.....



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02 Apr 2018, 10:19 am

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Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought.


Easter decorations.



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02 Apr 2018, 9:28 pm

DevilMayAsian wrote:
Cheryl: Let's stick to friends.


Let's stick to friends = I am not interested in you romantically. That's all you need to know.

My advice would be to let someone know of your romantic interest (either verbally, or non-verbally) in them sooner, rather than later. If they are romantically interested, but want to take it slow, they will probably let you know, one way or another. If they aren't, they will give you the whole let's be friends deal, and you will avoid wasting time, effort, money, and heartbreak on them.

The whole key to turning friendships with women into relationships, is to keep things casual...and keep some distance from them.



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12 Apr 2018, 9:00 am

If you think taking it slow it bad try dating a girl who wants to take things too fast.


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12 Apr 2018, 9:06 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought.


Easter decorations.


Condoms make great water bombs.


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14 Apr 2018, 10:17 am

Trueno wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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Now I don't what I'm going to do with the pack of condoms I just bought.


Easter decorations.


Condoms make great water bombs.


They're also good for making balloon animals.


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