Girl I don't like keeps harassing me.

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There's this girl in my school who has a huge crush on me, but I don't like her very much. She's very loud and excitable, and talks way too much and quickly. She touches me inappropriately (grabs me by chest, ass and/or crotch) and likes to makes sexual remarks (both online and face-to-face), and I find it very off-putting. If I could, I would tell her that I'm not interested and for her to stay away, but I can't voice it out because I'm mute (I think she's taking advantage of that fact). I will often push her away from me when she comes close as well as indicate to her through sign language that I don't like it, but that doesn't really stop her from trying and trying again. What should I do? People don't take the situation very seriously because they don't believe in sexual harassment towards males. Only my friends stick up for me. I haven't told my family about this.

Oh boy, that is not unrequited love, that's harassment. Since she has not gotten the hints you've been giving her, you really do need to tell someone in a higher position about this. If one person doesn't think it's a problem, go to someone else, until you get someone who will listen to you.

That behavior is unacceptable and no one should have to tolerate that. If you have to write it down, do it, but tell someone.

It's no kind of "love", it's plain sexual harassment. It's sad, you are facing gender prejudice here. But is should be reported. Try to team up with those who understand to push your case stronger.

The fact that your mute may make it very difficult for her to get in trouble over this. There was a case a few years ago where a retorted(or something else was wrong) women in the hospital was raped by a doc & was unable to say no or reject his advances because of her disorder. The judge ruled that her not saying no was the same as her consenting to it or something very horrible like that.

If I was your age and going to your school, I'd hit and slap her so silly that she wouldn't be able to move for a week.

Well this is sexual harassment, and it's true that you're not speaking is being taken advantage of. She thinks she wont get caught, it could get worse. You should bring this up to family as well, but also people at the school. Teachers, a principal, health offices, security, something. Keep bringing up to people until it's handled. I would actually recommend that you bring family members with you while you do this, if family wont do it, friends. Family is going to be better though, bring people who can fight for you, and talk about your character, and mutism. This is something that she should be suspended over, people even sue for this kind of thing. It's worse in your situation also, personally I'd milk your autism/mustism for all it's worth while bringing this issue up. But like I said, bring this up to people, and bring family that can help. Have whoever is speaking for you be as detailed as possible when it comes to each time it happened. They need to be clear about how you didn't like it, and tried to make it stop. How many times it happened, etc. I don't know how old she is, but you could get law enforcement involved as well. It's kind of like someone sexually harassing a child, in the sense that you can't do much about it, since you're not talking and feel so uncomfortable. It's honestly really bad. Don't take it lightly. Also don't make any futile attempts to deal with her, she just doesn't care.

Look up how to deal with sexual harassment at school, to know who to talk to as well. If you have to write a letter to a bunch of people at the school, do it. However the best option is going to be to tell your family, and go with them while they speak to x y z about the issue. I would do all of the above personally, that I've listed, I would want to make sure it's dealt with by whatever means necessary, and that she doesn't do it to others. Basically we're dealing with someone who harasses people that she knows can't necessarily defend themselves.

Yeah, that was why I thought getting family involved would help, someone to fight for you. Be adamant about them bringing this up with whoever is necessary. I hope this gets sorted out. Sometimes people don't do anything, until they feel pressed to do so. It's unfortunate, that was another reason to bring up the police though, if anything it's incentive to make the school do something, and not want that attention. I'm personally the type to involve them regardless.

Report it. Also why are you talking with this person online if you don’t like them? Message her and tell her to leave you alone or you’ll report her. It’s pretty serious, if you can’t defend yourself, you need an advocate. Get one, whether it be family or the school.

The OP said he tried reporting it to people at skewl but they didn't take him seriously since it's a girl doing that to a guy instead of the other way around. He needs an advocate like a family member to push the issue

Inform the school that if they don't take it seriously, the police just might.

Honestly, I think most people would not take you seriously, even family, because of the fact you are a male.

The best way is to face her and to be firm with her. And you should not message her, ghost her.

Don't tell her you're gay because this would kill your chances if you like a girl in school.