Fixation On a Certain Physical Feature

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09 Apr 2018, 7:55 pm

Does anyone else have such an attraction to a specific physical feature that the lack of that physical feature in someone makes you less inclined or less excited about dating them? Sure it's shallow, but I can't help but acknowledge the difference it makes in how much I'm attracted to someone with and without this specific physical feature.

Is this fixation on one specific feature common among Aspies? I've got to think it's an Aspie thing.

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09 Apr 2018, 7:57 pm

For me, it's (in no particular order) hair, eyes, and, as weird as it sounds, abs/belly button :lol:

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10 Apr 2018, 10:00 am

I mean I like big, round butts, but I'm willing to date a women even if she doesn't have a big, round butt.

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11 Apr 2018, 1:51 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Is this fixation on one specific feature common among Aspies? I've got to think it's an Aspie thing.

I don't know about one specific feature, but many people (both male and female) do have certain things they find desirable in the opposite sex. I think this is pretty normal, as long as you don't put too high of expectations on a potential romantic partner having this feature.

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11 Apr 2018, 1:57 am

SilverStar wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Is this fixation on one specific feature common among Aspies? I've got to think it's an Aspie thing.

I don't know about one specific feature, but many people (both male and female) do have certain things they find desirable in the opposite sex. I think this is pretty normal, as long as you don't expect that all women will have this feature, and you overlook everyone else that doesn't.

I get that people find certain things attractive, but what about to the extent that they only really want to date someone with that feature or features and whilst they're willing to date people without it/them, they'd feel like they're missing out on what they really want.

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11 Apr 2018, 2:20 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Is this fixation on one specific feature common among Aspies? I've got to think it's an Aspie thing.

I don't know about one specific feature, but many people (both male and female) do have certain things they find desirable in the opposite sex. I think this is pretty normal, as long as you don't expect that all women will have this feature, and you overlook everyone else that doesn't.

I have found there are usually tradeoffs, when it comes to physical features, and personalities. Very rarely will you find someone that has it all, and if you do, they usually aren't available, or not interested. :roll:

I would imagine that if you focus on particular part of their body, and dismiss everything else, you could be missing out on someone else that would be perfect for you otherwise.

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11 Apr 2018, 8:13 am

I'm a lot more attracted to people with vaginas instead of penises :lol:

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The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Does anyone else have such an attraction to a specific physical feature that the lack of that physical feature in someone makes you less inclined or less excited about dating them?

Yes. I'm attracted to thin girls.

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12 Apr 2018, 8:58 am

SilverStar wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Is this fixation on one specific feature common among Aspies? I've got to think it's an Aspie thing.

I don't know about one specific feature, but many people (both male and female) do have certain things they find desirable in the opposite sex. I think this is pretty normal, as long as you don't expect that all women will have this feature, and you overlook everyone else that doesn't.

I did. I found a thin girl with a nice personality who's into me. I've been dating her for about a month.

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16 Apr 2018, 10:44 pm

nick007 wrote:

I'm a lot more attracted to people with vaginas instead of penises :lol:

That's sexist! :lol:

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23 Apr 2018, 7:40 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

SilverStar wrote:

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Is this fixation on one specific feature common among Aspies? I've got to think it's an Aspie thing.

I don't know about one specific feature, but many people (both male and female) do have certain things they find desirable in the opposite sex. I think this is pretty normal, as long as you don't expect that all women will have this feature, and you overlook everyone else that doesn't.

I did. I found a thin girl with a nice personality who's into me. I've been dating her for about a month.

That's good! I am the opposite of you...really thin girls normally aren't attractive to me. I would take a slightly over-weight girl over a really thin girl usually.

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23 Apr 2018, 9:26 pm

White chicks who are not fat.

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24 Apr 2018, 9:49 pm

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White chicks who are not fat.

Maybe you should become a white guy who is not fat then.

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25 Apr 2018, 10:14 am

The Grand Inquisitor wrote:

Loner269 wrote:

White chicks who are not fat.

Maybe you should become a white guy who is not fat then.

Well I AM a white guy if you're implying I'm not, although these days it seems the darker guys seem to get the attention of the girls here, some of them are pretty much doing several girls at a time. Modern feminists have pretty much made the white heterosexual males the devil who have been 'born to be on top of the other groups' and must be oppressed to keep in line.

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Modern feminists have pretty much made the white heterosexual males the devil who have been 'born to be on top of the other groups' and must be oppressed to keep in line.

I'm not sure blaming feminists for your romantic failings is reasonable. If you're struggling romantically it's got more to do with yourself than with a conspiracy to keep white men 'oppressed', most white men are doing just fine.

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25 Apr 2018, 2:46 pm

SportsGamer35728 wrote:

For me, it's (in no particular order) hair, eyes, and, as weird as it sounds, abs/belly button :lol:

I guess I’d find it quite hard to date someone with no hair, eyes or belly button. By the way, how was that creature born? :alien:

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