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12 Mar 2018, 2:58 am

So a manic pixie dream girl is basically a Zooey Deschanel type character. This is a tvtropes article on the topic. I notice guys get weirdly attached with me, but not necessarily in a super sexual way. I wonder if it’s because they see me as quirky and fun or something.



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12 Mar 2018, 3:07 am

Balbituate wrote:
So a manic pixie dream girl is basically a Zooey Deschanel type character. This is a tvtropes article on the topic. I notice guys get weirdly attached with me, but not necessarily in a super sexual way. I wonder if it’s because they see me as quirky and fun or something.

Is it wrong to be into quirky playful fun silly women? Cause I’m super into them. I’m playful, silly and odd myself.



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12 Mar 2018, 3:29 am

I'm the male equivalent thereof. We can be quirky, fun & sexy but the sexy part is a step up in difficulty.


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12 Mar 2018, 8:39 am

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So a manic pixie dream girl is basically a Zooey Deschanel type character. This is a tvtropes article on the topic. I notice guys get weirdly attached with me, but not necessarily in a super sexual way. I wonder if it’s because they see me as quirky and fun or something.

Is it wrong to be into quirky playful fun silly women? Cause I’m super into them. I’m playful, silly and odd myself.

No. The problem is how attached guys get and how they idealize me. I’m also gay, but since I’m their “soulmate” I can’t really be gay. So they keep harassing me.



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12 Mar 2018, 9:36 am

Have you posted your picture? If not, how can I really tell if you're a "manic pixie dream girl?

Maybe you're "manic," maybe you're a "dream girl"---but without the picture, how can I determine your "pixieness?"

Do you wear a short hairstyle with bangs? That would assist greatly in the "pixie" image.



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12 Mar 2018, 11:10 am

Gidget, somebody from the 1950s-1960s, seemed like that sort of girl.



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12 Mar 2018, 5:15 pm

Balbituate wrote:
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Balbituate wrote:
So a manic pixie dream girl is basically a Zooey Deschanel type character. This is a tvtropes article on the topic. I notice guys get weirdly attached with me, but not necessarily in a super sexual way. I wonder if it’s because they see me as quirky and fun or something.

Is it wrong to be into quirky playful fun silly women? Cause I’m super into them. I’m playful, silly and odd myself.

No. The problem is how attached guys get and how they idealize me. I’m also gay, but since I’m their “soulmate” I can’t really be gay. So they keep harassing me.


Do you tell them your not interested? If the continue after that’s not attached but stalking and harassment.

I’m what some women would call clingy . I just like spending time with the woman I love which makes me clingy I guess.

I’ve gotten crushes on playful cute silly women. I don’t talk to them much though certainly don’t think they my soulmate . Just i like them a lot and would want to date them.



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12 Mar 2018, 8:13 pm

Balbituate wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Balbituate wrote:
So a manic pixie dream girl is basically a Zooey Deschanel type character. This is a tvtropes article on the topic. I notice guys get weirdly attached with me, but not necessarily in a super sexual way. I wonder if it’s because they see me as quirky and fun or something.

Is it wrong to be into quirky playful fun silly women? Cause I’m super into them. I’m playful, silly and odd myself.

No. The problem is how attached guys get and how they idealize me. I’m also gay, but since I’m their “soulmate” I can’t really be gay. So they keep harassing me.

Doh!! ! :oops:

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13 Mar 2018, 4:25 am

Balbituate wrote:
So a manic pixie dream girl is basically a Zooey Deschanel type character. This is a tvtropes article on the topic. I notice guys get weirdly attached with me, but not necessarily in a super sexual way. I wonder if it’s because they see me as quirky and fun or something.
I don't know because I've never seen you.


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13 Mar 2018, 5:59 pm

I have seen a number of your pics that you have posted. And you are rather cute and attractive .
Don't know about the manic and pixie part since I haven't seen you in person. And from your posts about your autistic special interestscombined with your looks I can well imagine someone finding you "adorkable" (as Daschanel described her TV character).

So.....

The doctor has bad news! You have just been diagnosed with terminal cuteness! :(



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13 Mar 2018, 6:12 pm

Oh noes :(


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13 Mar 2018, 6:57 pm

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I have seen a number of your pics that you have posted. And you are rather cute and attractive .
Don't know about the manic and pixie part since I haven't seen you in person. And from your posts about your autistic special interestscombined with your looks I can well imagine someone finding you "adorkable" (as Daschanel described her TV character).

So.....

The doctor has bad news! You have just been diagnosed with terminal cuteness! :(

Based on the pictures you’ve seen, do you think people would see me as adorkable based on my appearance or just my weird interests?



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14 Mar 2018, 4:43 pm

This thread is interesting, because it reminds of a woman I know. When I first met her in May 2016, I picked up a little bit of a Manic Pixie Dream Girl (MPDG) vibe on her part. I also saw a lot of my younger self in her. She was 22 at the time (I was 33), attractive, bubbly, and free-spirited. Of course, a lot of it had to do with timing: I met her shortly after my friends of 17 years met some very serious women and decided to settle down with them. These women are cool as individuals, and I learned to get along with them pretty quickly. But man-oh-man, their idea of fun is snooty dinner parties with all couples, where everyone performs a verbal circle jerk on each other. I attended those parties as a 5th wheel, and wanted to slam my head into a brick wall.

Then this new person came into my life, and was a breath of fresh air compared to the women I know. Still, I was well aware how insulting it is for women to be seen as a MPDG. So pushed the MPDG thoughts out of my mind, and saw her as a full-fledged individual, with her own life, with both endearing and flawed traits. It worked; me and her became good friends very fast: in maybe 2 months. She showed me loyalty and patience with my personal quirks. I did the same for her. And today, I would be very upset if I lost her as a friend or if she moved away.



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14 Mar 2018, 6:34 pm

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This thread is interesting, because it reminds of a woman I know. When I first met her in May 2016, I picked up a little bit of a Manic Pixie Dream Girl (MPDG) vibe on her part. I also saw a lot of my younger self in her. She was 22 at the time (I was 33), attractive, bubbly, and free-spirited. Of course, a lot of it had to do with timing: I met her shortly after my friends of 17 years met some very serious women and decided to settle down with them. These women are cool as individuals, and I learned to get along with them pretty quickly. But man-oh-man, their idea of fun is snooty dinner parties with all couples, where everyone performs a verbal circle jerk on each other. I attended those parties as a 5th wheel, and wanted to slam my head into a brick wall.

Then this new person came into my life, and was a breath of fresh air compared to the women I know. Still, I was well aware how insulting it is for women to be seen as a MPDG. So pushed the MPDG thoughts out of my mind, and saw her as a full-fledged individual, with her own life, with both endearing and flawed traits. It worked; me and her became good friends very fast: in maybe 2 months. She showed me loyalty and patience with my personal quirks. I did the same for her. And today, I would be very upset if I lost her as a friend or if she moved away.

I actually find the idea of MPDGs cool. I just don’t like being weirdly idealized by guys. Don’t know if they see me as a MPDG, but I’ve discovered I don’t like being idealized.



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14 Mar 2018, 10:59 pm

Balbituate wrote:
I actually find the idea of MPDGs cool. I just don’t like being weirdly idealized by guys. Don’t know if they see me as a MPDG, but I’ve discovered I don’t like being idealized.
Being seen as a MPDG isn't really about being idealized. It's more about being seen as a one-dimensional accessory of sorts. Your own interests are dismissed as "whatever", and your own struggles are ignored, because they don't fit in with the MPDG image. That is, your only role as a person is to help some stuffy, depressed man overcome his struggles and find happiness in life. For Hollywood examples, consider "500 Days of Summer" or "Garden State".

The male equivalent of an MPDG would be "husband material". That is, he's seen a one-dimensional "ideal" husband for some woman, rather than a man who's an interesting person in his own right. Partially because he will be expected to relinquish his interests when he becomes a husband. (Some people say the male equivalent is a "knight in a shining armor", but he's a complement, rather than an equivalent.)