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Girl's Profile: "I'm bipolar and don't have a job. My money comes from disability. I grew up taking care of my disabled brother, and now I like to think I'm an advocate for disabled people."

Me: "I have aspergers, so I feel like we're kind of in the same boat."

Her: "What's aspergers?"

Me: *gives quick rundown of what aspergers is*

Her: "That's actually kind of disturbing. I don't think I could date someone like that."

The most common condition you will find among the girls on dating sites is the "No camel sees his hunch" syndrome.

Oh wow, some advocate she is.....

IDK though I have aspergers and I'll admit if someones dating profile started with 'I have this issue bla bla bla' I probably would have ran away quickly. To me that says first and foremost they are focusing on negatives and limitations above all else, it is generally better to advertise positive qualities.

Also, all I can picture is one of those loud obnoxious people that quite literally don't care about anything and have an aura like a pile of refuse. Like the type of person that will trash your living space within 10 minutes if you let them stay that long, because they can't be bothered to throw their trash away or consider other people around them.

lol 'I R Advocate...bla, I take care of my brother bla....I have no idea what aspergers is but sounds bad, ha ha ha I don't have a functioning brain.' that is the impression I get. Am i being too mean...?

So you likely dodged a bullet with that one.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 13 Apr 2018, 11:48 am, edited 1 time in total.

Those who focus on public image are rarely in tune with their thoughts.
They're an intolerant human being that just happen to have an underlying mental health condition.
Move on, my friend.

I'm willing to bet if I looked like this, she would have thought twice.

What are you wating for then? Hit the weights.

How did you describe it?

"It's a mild form of autism. I'm still capable of living on my own, holding down a job, etc, but it's hard to make friends (or find a girlfriend) because it's like my brain just works differently than other people's. I have trouble showing emotions, and reading them in others is even harder. Sometimes people think I don't have emotions at all. I can't read body language very well so subtle nuances go right over my head sometimes. I'm also bluntly honest, sometimes brutally so, but I do my best not to do or say anything that will accidentally offend people."

Then I agree with the others, she’s a total hypocrite.

Last edited by smudge on 13 Apr 2018, 12:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I think it might have been the whole lack of emotions thing that put her off, but yeah, she's a total hypocrite. I would have completely told them off if someone said something like that to me. As if they'd listen.

I noticed this a lot on dating sites. Women mentioned how they're disabled & not working but wrote me off as soon as they found out I was. I didn't event mention mental disabilities, I mentioned physical disabilities & how they affect me & they wrote me off for being too dependent & not having a job.

In my experiences, anyone who proudly boosts that they are accepting, nice, humble, understanding, etcetera, they're almost always lying to make themselves look and feel good. Never trust them.

I don't have an issue with the fact that she doesn't think she could date someone with AS but she did not need to be rude about it.

What comes to mind for me, is my boyfriends ex-room-mate, she was one of those 'oh I hate drama' people...I imagine you can guess what that really meant.

This same person than tried to make things up about me 'stealing' her tea when I went over to hang out with my boyfriend...after I had gone out and bought tea to keep there to make sure I didn't use up all her tea she said I could drink 'as much as I wanted' of. But I didn't I went and bought my own then she accused me of stealing all of hers..and proceeded to try and break me and my boyfriend up, it didn't work. But after all that no way in hell I believe she doesn't like drama.

Like I literally bought tea because I didn't want to impose on her, and then get accused of 'stealing' her tea.

And I still still bad my boyfriend does not associate with her or her husband anymore, like he really thought they were his friends even when I started going out with him. But what started to go down was BS and I told him that and he really cares about me so he chose to break off his relations with them for me basically. I mean its almost like they got jealous of our relationship or something I am not sure what made them turn so bitter towards us. But they aren't in our lives anymore so whatever I guess.

Last edited by Sweetleaf on 14 Apr 2018, 2:15 am, edited 4 times in total.

I mentioned something like that because I actually really was seeking out women with mental &/or physical issues. I have more than my fair share of both & wanted someone who could somewhat relate to me & being emotionally supportive within a realtionship is one of my strong points. it's one of the few things I can offer besides devotion, love & affection. My girlfriend has depression, anxiety & fibromyalgia along with other things. It can be difficult to deal with sometimes but I really do love her & I know I can be pretty difficult too & she does a good job of taking care of me how she's able to.

Women can be significantly more selective than us, comes with way online dating has women as the card holders.