Turned down 2 diff 3somes and several single offers tonight

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*yawn* Just another Monday evening in my life.

Been a long time since I've had a 3some, too. I'm not 100% sure, but since I've only ever had a couple it might have even been ~6 years ago. *shrug* Not really my thing or I'd do it a lot more often.

One of them, while he was in great shape, one dude was older than my max age range & way more muscular than I like.

The other, I've hooked up with the one guy - he's cool - but his friend, meh, not reeeeally my type. Plus I was actually yawning and I'm a bit sore from a 9km run a couple days ago.

Obvi all the other single offers were kinda "meh," nothing too exciting or I might have been all over it.

The one who wants to "hang out," Sunday evening is cute, though.. (partnered, open relationship), but really, there's a different one I chatted with yesterday that I'm actually interested in chatting with further - I just get a "nice," vibe from him (vs hookup sl00t like most gay guys lol), and I at least wanna chat more. It's refreshing to chat with someone you actually want to chat with vs. just hookup with. Hmm, just hookups - man I had a few hot offers yesterday.. couldn't be bothered to drive that far that late at night, though, and another smokin' hot one was working night shift 'til 5am & I value sleep when I'm tired, so, meh, maybe some other time.

And then there's the other occasional fwb's I hear from now and then.. May long weekend should be good if plans come to fruition. We always have fun.. lean little farm boy Christian school soccer star.

Oh, and Honey Soundsystem is playing my friend's new party place at the end of the month.. I might go to that gayfest of a party - they're always good & it's the week after his grand opening and the first super gay party in the new space, soooo.. there will be cute boys there. Maybe I'll go do some volunteer work again to help them rebuild this/next week.

Just thought I'd give y'all an entertaining glimpse into an entirely different world - one that's playing out just like this in every major city in the world right now. True story.

*yawn*

Exactly what I'm doing right now.. too tired for fun & games.

Got a few things done today, dentist appt etc & I have a couple of busy days ahead of me, so opted to stay in and rest tonight so I can function like a normal-ish human being tmw.

Our of curiosity, Where were you getting the offers GF a website, a gay club

Craigslist & Grindr mainly. Emails, text messages from some fwb's. There are other websites & apps that I know local gay guys use but I can't be bothered because it's almost entirely the same group, or subset of people, using the different apps. So I just use the most popular couple - good enough. Lol often it's far more than enough. And if there isn't anyone or anything I'm particularly interested in that's interested in me, well, whatever, there will be another time. Sometimes I chat with local homos often, or hookup, and other times I just can't be bothered as I have other things to do. It is nice to have it as a 24/7 option, though.

Then there are the night clubs (that I never go to) and bathhouses (been once last Pride weekend, interesting experience).. apparently the bathhouse gets VERY busy during lunch hour when a bunch of men from the financial district go take their "business lunch." And the party I described above will have a dedicated hookup area - it's kind of the way things are at semi-underground gay warehouse parties. Public random hookups aren't really my cup of tea, but it's very, very, "freeing," to step into that world where that sort of thing is completely normalized. Outside on the street it might be a bit strange to see two guys even holding hands.. but inside a warehouse like that? Oh... you'll see a lot more than that happening.

Soo, gay people like to screw a lot and aren't afraid of being condemned, we get it. Now, imagine how impossible all this would be for a hetero.

Good for you?

Condemned?

We’re not decrepit buildings. Many of us are in pretty good shape, actually.

There are very sexual hetero people, too. It’s not impossible, just a bit more difficult. There are many sex positive parties that go on in every major city, and swingers clubs etc. It’s not as easy for straight people, but it’s not impossible if that’s the life they choose to live.

Aw, thanks bud. :p

You’re right, though, it is good for me.

I'm happy you've found outlets for your libido, but wouldn't this have been better posted in the Adult forum?
Not because of the orientation, but because the focus being purely a humblebrag on sexual activity.

Why should love and dating be restricted to the heteronormative version of such things in life?

This is simply the dating culture of my people. Well, many of them, anyways.

You're acting as if I'm singling our homosexuals. I mean, that was a really short post to read. It explicitly pointed out a sensible reason why I thought it belonged in a different forum. This is particularly for romance and dating, whereas you are discussing sexual encounters specifically - this is something (regardless of which way anyone identifies or swings) would go to the adult forum. I think you know this, and are praying that my debating skills are weak, or that you can resort to a weak discrimination card.

I mean, I know sex is a normal part of almost any relationship (overnight, short term, long term..), but there is no discussion here of a relationship, the seeking of one. It's purely a sexual thread. I have no problem with this, I'm just asking a sensible question about if this is the right forum for it. Are you going to argue that the Adult forum is not suitable for it, or that it is less inclusive in any way? It would welcome this topic gladly.

Please note, because a 2 line, very concisely written post wasn't clear enough obviously, that the focus here (which you know but are being disingenuous about) isn't about the sexual orientation pertaining to the thread, but the fact that is is adult in its content.

If you made it this far, thank you for your patience and maturity.
I would also like to add that gay people are people, too, and if you feel it's necessary to segregate them after a humanity's worth of discrimination to exclusively "your people" then I feel sorry for you. I also don't think you speak for every gay person.

But you are singling out a homosexual. Nothing I've said in this thread is explicit nor intended to offend. This forum isn't dedicated to romance. There have been plenty of threads about sex, hookups, fwb's, rebounds, tinder dates/hookups etc in this forum. It's not weak at all. I'm pointing out to you right now that similarly sexual in nature threads have been discussed in this forum w/ no one saying they shouldn't be here. Funny how they're pretty much all heterosexual content & that's just fine. I don't really care if you'd like to pretend gay people and gay sex don't exist; we do, and it does.

Who are you to decide that this forum is for discussing long term relationships online? Short term/one night stands are a form of relationship, and often the only one many of us can form with other people. And if you read the OP you'd have read that I wrote I had chatted with someone I hope to chat again with - just like all the other humans who've posted similar things about their chat/date interactions. It just happens to be same sex so you'd prefer it to be in a forum where you might not read it, I suppose. If it was purely a sexual thread, I wouldn't have made mention about the one I hoped to chat with in a more than just sexual way. Ignoring that doesn't make it any less true that I posted it. Also, as I said, this is the "dating," culture of many gay males. Just because it's different from what you're used to doesn't mean anything posted in this thread is meant for adult eyes only. I didn't, and am not about to, get descriptive about any sort of sexual details or acts or any other such explicit thing that would make a thread have "adult content." Believe it or not, people under the age of 18/19/21 (whatever you consider an adult) have same sex relationships, too, and shouldn't have to search to find any mention of them buried in some hidden corner of the forum where its out of sight out of mind for the mildly homophobic.

Again, it's not adult content. I could be very descriptive if I wanted to write "adult content." This thread isn't that - and those conversations/emails are personal and private and not something I'm ever going to write here for any of you to read. Sure, it's about mostly very short term relationships - but that's what many gay guys do. Different in duration from what you're into doesn't make it "adult content."

I say "my people," as a semi-joking generalization. I wrote "many of them, anyways." not "all gay people," so I already indicated that I do not speak for all gay people. I think I was crystal clear about the fact that I was speaking for myself.

The Christian school soccer star farm boy has been texting this morning.. I sense a rather fun night in our not so distant future. But then again, sometimes he texts and then drops off the face of the Earth for months and we meet much later. It doesn't bother me that much.. he's hot and worth the sh***y communication breakdowns just for the un we have once in a while.

"Look at me mommy, look at me PLEASEEE."

Ew, that’s gross. I’m not much of an exhibitionist tbh, and especially wouldn’t invite my mother to watch.

Just noticed and replied to an email from someone else I wish I’d have seen earlier.. lol ah well, that happens sometimes. Can’t allllllways be available when others are. Thankfully it’s not exactly a seldom occurrence that I receive such invitations.