I learned that traveling is the best cure for broken heart.

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I was heartbroken and I thought that dating someone else was the best cure for my broken heart, but it didn't help. Every girl I recently dated seemed very boring compared to the one who broke my heart. So I'm just single again. But it turns out that traveling helps. Right now I have a job that allows me to travel a lot, because I just need my laptop for my job and it pays well, so it is awesome. Right now I'm just on the move from city to city and only come back to my city when I must. Too bad that it took me a few months to find out what the cure was...

I’m glad you found something that works. I have not heard of this advice before.

It’s different for everyone. Personally, what worked best for me was covering the windows and locking myself in my room for about three days.

That tends to work for me, and to ride out the emotions with music and just cry my eyes out.




Just three days?!

I definitely agree. It’s wonderful. I’m currently saving for my next trip to either Iceland or Japan.

That’s as long as I can stretch the ice cream. And for everyone reading this, try, just TRY to save all your breakups for the weekends! Seriously. Because early in the week it’s all they think about and they have work/school. At least on Friday or a Saturday you give someone time to get over the shock before getting back into their regular routine. I know you’re eager to get out of one relationship so you can make your next one official, but COME ON! Breaking up Monday morning with a phone call. Realiously???

Sorry...I forgot. This isn’t about me.

But yeah, 3 days and you’re still gonna feel like garbage, but at least you can begin to function. I would seriously take personal days at work if I had them. And that underscores what I mean when I say nix unnecessary emotional attachments. Emotions are GOOD. But if it kills your judgment, it ends up being a lot more devastating than it should be. Have fun, enjoy the relationship, just don’t lose your head.

3 days to get back into activity.

3 months to mourn the relationship. I think that’s important. I think you need to face your sorrows head on, maybe even wallow and soak in them so to speak, and give them that time so when you finally let them go, you let go because you’re sick of feeding emotional dead weight. You get to a point where you’re so sick of feeling a certain way that you have to force yourself to feel something that you really don’t. Your heart a lot of times will let go before your mind does, just like physical wounds heal well before the scabs fall off. Give yourself that time for healing and I think you’ll end up much stronger for it.

I can’t really say HOW you best accomplish this, but if traveling is what does it for you and you have the ability, I can’t say I think it’s a bad thing. Go for it.

I never liked traveling, it stresses me out. I'm too much of a homebody. In my experience the best way for me to get over an ex is for me to get in another relationship. I was hung-up on my 1st girlfriend for 8 years after we broke up until I got in a relationship with my 2nd girlfriend. After that breakup, I was hung-up on her for like half a year till I got in my current relationship. I tried lots of things to get over em including being a workaholic, playing vid games, watching TV, spending time on computer listening to music, posting about things a lot trying to analyze & sort things out & get things out of my system, counseling, & seeing a psych & taking meds(I fell into a bad depression after the 1st relationship ended). The only time I travel is 2wice a year from Vermont to Louisiana & back again to visit my family.

Travelling probably helps too if you're caught stalking the person who "broke your heart" as it would make it harder for the law to find you.

Just because he is an easy target, it doesn’t mean you have to mock him.

Um, according to B19 in another thread he's literally stalking another member of the forum and has had several accounts banned for it and is in the process of having this account banned. Just so you know.

I know. My comment still stands.

I'll try really hard to be nicer to stalkers in future, just for you smudge.

He obviously has issues, mocking him isn’t going to make anything better.

Sorry, I don't have a lot of spare empathy for stalkers. My experience has been that patiently explaining why it's wrong to stalk women doesn't really make it better either, because they don't want to hear that it's wrong they just want to keep doing it until the woman gives up trying to get away or they get forced to stop like by a restraining order.

Actually, I get you now. As I said in the other thread, my mind hasn’t been clear for the last couple of days, I apologise. I don’t have any sympathy for stalkers either.

That's OK, I feel like I've not been expressing myself very well and I've not been feeling my best lately either. Don't worry about it.