Do you use this forum for dating/hookup/romantic interests?

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Is that a common thing here?

I know there's a couple of singles/eligible aspie threads here/LGBT forum etc.

But I've never once used this, or any, forum for such messaging purposes. Not once. Not Facebook either, w/ the exception of creating an anonymous FB account about ~8-9 years ago to lookup a local bank teller that caught my eye just to send an anonymous message to ask if he might be gay and possibly interested. People weren't as Okay with gay people being as "out," as we are now even ~ 1 decade ago.

IIRC, I have received one or two such messages here from others - at least one, maybe two - and I politely replied and let them know that A) You're not my type & I neither of us can change that. and B) I'm not interested in a long distance text based relationship with anyone so you're totally barking up the wrong tree there.

Other than that, I have had exactly zero exchanges with anyone here of any sort of dating/hookup/romantic intent. A couple years ago someone in my life told me that people use Facebook/social media for dating connections now and that I should update my profile picture because people want to see what I look like Now. I'm fat and out of shape in my nearly ~10yo profile pic that I've never changed - but I leave it because I love that picture for who else is in it. It never occurred to me before that conversation that people use Facebook for dating connections.. even though it was very blatantly in the movie "The Social Network," that that was one of Facebook's initial primary uses. I just kinda laughed at my AS obliviousness to this and told him I likely wouldn't change my profile pic because I'm not seeking dates or relationships & tend to avoid anything of that nature aside from mutually agreed upon hookups/fwb's with people I meet via specific websites & apps that are geared towards that. Although, there is a possibility that I might skip the biggest party weekend of the year and return to the spot where my FB profile pic was snapped w/ the same (now larger) family and take a new 10 year anniversary pic w/ my youngest God daughter and now her younger brother. I haven't asked my friends yet if I can drive up there and do this during their annual Summer trip to Osoyoos (~40C desert resort town on a lake that crosses the US border in central/Eastern British Columbia) but I might.

Anyways, just to be completely transparent: Inspiration for this thread to ask if this is even a "thing," here is based upon forum user EzraS stating that he had "been warned by others to be leery of me," which I found very strange considering it's IMPOSSIBLE for me to have a reputation as someone who creeps on forum members and sends them dating/hookup/romantic messages because I have never ever sent anyone here any such message. I VERY HIGHLY suspect that the reason other people here would message EzraS and tell him to be leery of me in that way is for the very simple reason that I am an openly gay man and he is a young man. YMMV, but IMO that is not okay and whoever thinks those things of me and writes them to other forum members is homophobic and making some VERY wild assumptions about me.

How about the rest of you? Are you actually messaging one another looking to connect like that? I'm just curious if this is even a real thing here like apparently it is on Facebook. Maybe those who felt the need to "warn," EzraS are sending dating related messages to others themselves, or receiving them, and thus project that behaviour onto me and assume that because I'm an openly gay man I must be messaging younger males here with inappropriate content. Those people need to grow up and realize that gay != pedophile.

i probably come off like a total sadistic creep here so, no, i don't think i'd have much of a chance if i did use WP for that purpose.

Nope. I use it to take the piss

I doubt it's a thing on this site but could be 100% wrong. That there are some homophobes here who would send a gay warning PM I would be less surprised about.

I do find it a little strange that you mention your sexual partners in completely irrelevant posts, I would feel like that whatever the sexuality of the people involved. It does not affect me in anyway, but I'm pretty sure it does push some members buttons.

I used this & other forums tor trying to find a romantic partner. I met my 2nd & current girlfriend on here. I did NOT send out a bunch of messages to women hoping for a chance. Instead I made LOTS of posts about wanting to find someone & I hit on afew members in threads. I only initiated PMs with my 2nd girlfriend after she seemed interested. My current girlfriend messaged me after reading a lot of my posts.

Yeah; I'd like to find someone on here or on the other forum I started to use

Definitely homophobes here, especially the religious extremist types. I think we all know who that user is as he tends to spew his damaging hate speech towards non-hetero members struggling to accept their own sexuality.

*shrug* It’s a part of life, maybe not yours, but it is mine. I’m never graphic nor explicit, but I did disclose in a thread a few nights ago, when pressed for a reason I wasn’t staying online, that a pretty little blonde gay boy was on his way over. True story. These things happen.

Most people here live too far away from me, so I have never tried.

I think it's comment like this that might get you bad attention , it suggests you are into young boys ( to the literal mind )

If I was posting that I was into little blonde girls , people would judge me.

It doesn't bother me in the slightest but just pointing out a explanation

I’ve been extremely transparent about the fact that I like pretty little gay boys (colloquially known as “twinks”) and not masculine strong built hairy chested bearded gay men. Gay boys = 20 somethings, not children.

I know what you mean but the word 'boy' does not suggest adults to a literal mind

I've had plenty of PMs sent to me over the years suggesting all kinds of things but I'm not single and I don't think I would ever be into internet dating or relationships if I was.

Well then people either need to learn to expand their vocabulary and realize the difference between gay boys and gay men, Or ask questions instead of assuming that anyone is talking about literal gay children.

With that line of thinking you’d think everyone here would jump to the conclusion that if someone talks about their boyfriend or girlfriend instead of their manfriend or womanfriend that they must in fact be in some sort of romantic sexual relationship with an underage child.

But of course, I am the WP’s ladies man - they all happen to live in my neighborhood

I think it's that you use "little" in there.
People don't talk about their "little" girlfriends or boyfriends.
Little suggests a child.

Also, "to be leery of someone" means not to trust them.
That doesn't necessarily mean in a sexual sense.
I could tell someone to be leery of those sprouting potatoes - doesn't mean I think the potatoes are going to sexually assault them.