Purposeful disappointment

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Okay, so this one is a doozie:

I've been talking with this girl M* for a while. She's a student at one of the colleges (universities) in NYC and we met through a Facebook group for urban planning geeks (this same FB group has a dating page component, and I'll get to that later).

Here's where it gets messy:

M has a friend who's more my type. Her name is O*, and she's more of my type. She's a political science major at the same college and has some very attractive qualities: she was a Bernie Sanders supporter back in 2016, is an NYC native, is quite attractive and is a transit geek. However, I've been left with the impression that her personality is shallow to say the least. We chatted a bit last week but after piecing together what her schedule is like considering what her summer job is, I haven't messaged her in a few days, and while she agreed to hang out, her lack of reply to my last message from almost a week ago speaks volumes.

And here's where I goofed up:

I told M about my attraction to O and used the word "infatuation". At this point, the reason I want to meet O is to be left with a disappointing impression and be done with her. I even tried following O on Instagram (her account is private). No reply to that request. From what I can piece together, O isn't much of a social media user.

I want to give O a chance, but something tells me I'm going to be let down because of the whole shallow thing.

Have you ever liked someone, but something about them has made you want to meet them just so you can be disappointed and move on?

*first initials are used in lieu of full names

I sense that you should try for "M" instead.

It doesn't make sense to go for "O."

So you go up to the Borscht Belt sometimes, but live in the City?

It's nice up in the Catskills....as long as they clear the roads after a snowstorm in a timely manner.

I've been living in NYC all my life. Queens since I was 3.