We’re they trying too stop me from being with that girl!

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22 Oct 2018, 10:00 am

At the bar not long ago this girl i in my social group started grinding against me. One of her friends then came over and said too her “hey leave him alone”. A few seconds later some of my friends started talking too the girl and then she left me alone.

My friends know I have autism but do you think they were trying too prevent my participation in a sexual relationship with that girl because I am on the spectrum?

The girl who flirted with me is a single mother too 2 boys.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:03 am

They were probably trying to protect you.

Or maybe they were trying to protect her, because she was drunk----and not because of you. Just in general.

In other words, they might have been protecting her from any man while she was in a drunken state.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:04 am

Were they trying too stop you from being with that girl?

It sure looks that way.

Maybe you need a new social group.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:06 am

Yep....a new venue, other than a bar....



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22 Oct 2018, 10:20 am

I know it’s the neurotypical fear of an aspie passing down there condition too someone else.

She was grinding against loads of other guys that evening although she was doing a bit more intimate with me.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:24 am

Asperger's is not a condition which can be "passed" automatically to babies.

An NT often gives birth to a person with Asperger's. A person with Asperger's often give birth to NT's.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:25 am

Have you tried asking them why?



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22 Oct 2018, 10:29 am

Yes, and they thought you wouldn’t notice it. You read it right Jamse.

This was a subtle form of ableism.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:32 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Yes, and they thought you wouldn’t notice it. You read it right Jamse.

This was a subtle form of ableism.



Why?

Jamesy wrote:
She was grinding against loads of other guys that evening although she was doing a bit more intimate with me.


My guess from this is that Jamesy was the one being protected, but until he asks he\we will never know.



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22 Oct 2018, 10:43 am

Me Here wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Yes, and they thought you wouldn’t notice it. You read it right Jamse.

This was a subtle form of ableism.



Why?

Jamesy wrote:
She was grinding against loads of other guys that evening although she was doing a bit more intimate with me.


My guess from this is that Jamesy was the one being protected, but until he asks he\we will never know.





They only thing people like that protect ‘us’ from is happiness :evil:



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22 Oct 2018, 10:49 am

She was probably drunk, and her friends were trying to keep her out of trouble.


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22 Oct 2018, 10:50 am

Seriously ask them: they may have used your Autism to put her off, but I'm more inclined to think they have her down as a bad'un and were protecting you from her.

If you still feel like you have missed out on true love: just how many do you mean by the "loads" that she had been grinding before you?



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22 Oct 2018, 10:50 am

^^^That's the most likely explanation......



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22 Oct 2018, 10:51 am

XFilesGeek wrote:
She was probably drunk, and her friends were trying to keep her out of trouble.


Yes, but not in the way the OP is taking it?



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22 Oct 2018, 10:53 am

The OP might be taking it the wrong way. It does happen.....to everybody.