I sort of friendzoned him, how do I change that now?

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Hi! I hope I can get some advice here.

I'm talking to this guy i've gone out with once. There's a small distance and I guess since i've been a bit cold since then so it hasn't happened that he's come to see me again but he was really into me very fast and even after I told him about my diagnose but I was unsure and felt a bit uncomfortable by how much feeling he was throwing at me so I basically told him to back off, I need space and he respected that but I guess I kind of friendzoned him as well a while after that? And he started talking to me much less than before and whenever we talk now he shows 0 emotion although I know he JUST had lots of feelings for me (i'm talking like 2 weeks ago) but I don't know if he's not showing them anymore in respect for me and my needing time or because he's no longer that into me because I friendzoned him? I have a really hard time talking about and showing emotion so I don't at all and didn't before either so i'm not sure what to do if I should ask him what he wants or just tell him how I feel now and that I am open to the idea of maybe giving a possible relationship a chance now because i've had time to think? (Because that is what he wanted and was even willing to take things at my pace which is great.)

I've lost great guys in the past because of my fear of letting someone in and being emotional and having a hard time figuring out exactly how I feel about someone often until its too late... I don't wanna do that again because I know genuinely good men are few so please help me.

I think you have to bite the bullet so to speak & tell him how you feel. He'll never know your interested in more with him unless you make the 1st move.

^^^ agreed

It has been my experience that when a guy likes you so much so fast , it almost always ends fast.
The thing is if he doesn't really know you that well yet ....how could he be wild about you ...he thinks he is but he is wild
about who he thinks you are in his imagination.
He liked something about you and then in his mind added more and more and he really was thinking it was you.
And to you it seemed real because he was sincere, he most likely does not even know he does this .He thinks well I don't know why but I dont feel like calling ....or whatever....but the thing is there was something he liked in the first place and if you can get him to know you better then he can find more. So I agree with the others and just come out and tell him "hey , I said back off not fall off the planet" ...and tell him lets go out again....I know it is a big risk and if he is the type of guy thats fast to fall and fast to leave , your chances are not good but if you dont ask , your chances are.....nonexistent.
So work up your courage and go for it , and I would love to know how things go for you . I wish you the best !

I haven't said anything yet. I've been told it would be better to wait until we meet again this month and show what I feel then especially because of the distance and it was a while since the last meeting now.
He keeps referring to me as "friend" and says it's fun to visit a friend.
I was the one to call him a friend first though (because back then I wasn't sure I wanted more so I wanted him to stop flirting with me) and ever since then he's been this way.
You think I should wait too, or ask what he wants now? Because i'm confused as he's said just before I called him a friend that he wanted to take things slow but also would like this to become a relationship and now there is no talking like that from him anymore and I don't know how I am supposed to understand what that means. He was very open with his emotions before (I think it's just how he is as a person with friends too) but now nothing. Is it because that's how I am in chat and because i've told him I don't like displaying emotions much or something else=

Hmm I know nothing about him, so Idk. Did you begin conversations with him too or was it always him to contact you? How did you frienzone him?

You friendzoned him.

So he friendzoned you back.

C’est la vie.

give it a go, when you do meet. if need be, be blunt. might work.

Okay so I questioned him and he said he still has feelings but stopped showing them because I didn't seem to like him doing that so much... Which is very nice I think. So we're just gonna stay in touch and see each other when we can and see where it goes. It's just typical me to start panicking now because of these emotions.

Men are so typical. *sigh*

They really never friendzone...

I usually cut contacts rather than friendzone.