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angelofdarkness
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06 Jun 2018, 6:48 pm

've been confused lately how a guy friend has been avoiding me, since he invited me to his birthday party. He don't even talj to me at work, though he does other people which I don't get at all since we used to be real close. He only wished me a happy birthday a month early and said it's never too early when I acted skeptical about it. He looks at face book on the bus instead of talking to anyone and that's the only time I see him now since he moved departments. I'm proaably gonna be quitting next month, since I found another job at McDonalds should I just continue ignoring him back or what?.

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06 Jun 2018, 7:00 pm

Yeah, just ignore him right back. But don't expect that to bring him around. He's sending you signals that he's not that "into" you. Get the hint and direct your focus elsewhere.

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06 Jun 2018, 7:02 pm

I hope you're not leaving a higher-paying job to work at McDonald's.

That doesn't make sense.

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06 Jun 2018, 7:37 pm

angelofdarkness wrote:

Why's he ignoring me?

Have you asked him yet?

We don't know him, so we can only guess; and our guesses could be very, very wrong.

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06 Jun 2018, 8:03 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

I hope you're not leaving a higher-paying job to work at McDonald's.

That doesn't make sense.

Where I'm quitting only pays minimum wage and I only get 11 hours a week McDonalds literally paid more and should give me more hours

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06 Jun 2018, 8:04 pm

Fnord wrote:

angelofdarkness wrote:

Why's he ignoring me?

Have you asked him yet?

We don't know him, so we can only guess; and our guesses could be very, very wrong.

All he told me was he had something on his mind and woundnt go into detail but I'm really tired of him ignoring me but talking to everyone else so I'm jsut moving jobs

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06 Jun 2018, 8:13 pm

angelofdarkness wrote:

All he told me was he had something on his mind and woundnt go into detail but I'm really tired of him ignoring me but talking to everyone else so I'm jsut moving jobs

He might really just have a lot on his mind. Often, however, people will say something vague like this if you've done something to majorly turn them off and they just don't want to hurt your feelings or go into lurid details about why they'd rather just stay distant from you. Either way, he's clearly indicating that he's not interested in having much to do with you, so don't worry about it and focus your energy elsewhere.

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06 Jun 2018, 8:14 pm

StickyVicky wrote:

angelofdarkness wrote:

All he told me was he had something on his mind and woundnt go into detail but I'm really tired of him ignoring me but talking to everyone else so I'm jsut moving jobs

He might really just have a lot on his mind. Often, however, people will say something vague like this if you've done something to majorly turn them off and they just don't want to hurt your feelings or go into lurid details about why they'd rather just stay distant from you. Either way, he's clearly indicating that he's not interested in having much to do with you, so don't worry about it and focus your energy elsewhere.

Sounds like just moving jobs is the best thing for me really

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06 Jun 2018, 8:28 pm

If that's true, then get the job at McDonald's.

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06 Jun 2018, 8:30 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

If that's true, then get the job at McDonald's.

I was planning on it since working 2 jobs is a bit too much of a hassle for me

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06 Jun 2018, 10:46 pm

If a guy used to be friendly with you, but now ignores you, then you have probably done something to him to make him feel rejected, or offended.

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07 Jun 2018, 6:19 am

Fnord wrote:

angelofdarkness wrote:

Why's he ignoring me?

Have you asked him yet?

We don't know him, so we can only guess; and our guesses could be very, very wrong.

I don't think that makes any sense, unless she tries to speak to him and he turns to the other side. If she doesn't start conversation with him either I don't see why she would think that he's supposed to go to her and start talking.

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07 Jun 2018, 6:22 am

This seems to me like a good case of the trash taking itself out. He has removed himself from the equation so now you don’t need to remove him.

I think the new job would be best for you. Good on you.

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07 Jun 2018, 6:31 am

hale_bopp wrote:

This seems to me like a good case of the trash taking itself out. He has removed himself from the equation so now you don’t need to remove him.

I think the new job would be best for you. Good on you.

Why the hell would you be so mean? Because he f**d up when saying happy birthday?

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07 Jun 2018, 6:48 am

Peacesells wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

This seems to me like a good case of the trash taking itself out. He has removed himself from the equation so now you don’t need to remove him.

I think the new job would be best for you. Good on you.

Why the hell would you be so mean? Because he f**d up when saying happy birthday?

Purposely ignoring someone and avoiding someone you were good friends with for no valid reason isn’t really acceptable in friends if you ask me.

If he can’t talk about what his problem is, he’s a rubbish friend and not worth her time.

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07 Jun 2018, 6:56 am

hale_bopp wrote:

Peacesells wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

This seems to me like a good case of the trash taking itself out. He has removed himself from the equation so now you don’t need to remove him.

I think the new job would be best for you. Good on you.

Why the hell would you be so mean? Because he f**d up when saying happy birthday?

Purposely ignoring someone and avoiding someone you were good friends with for no valid reason isn’t really acceptable in friends if you ask me.

If he can’t talk about what his problem is, he’s a rubbish friend and not worth her time.

It doesn't seem that she is going to him to start conversations either, from the post. Yet you think that he should go and do it, you are so entitled. He doesn't owe her anything, if she wants to talk to him she can go and do it, if then he acts like a dick good riddance.

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