jimmy m wrote:
SZWell wrote:
Don't tell us when to give up BEA

I think BeaArthur has a valid point. I didn't meet my future wife until I was 25. And actually Bea is telling you
not to give up especially not at the age of 23.
I know, I was mostly joking. To Sabreclaw and Closet Genius's points though, after you've been through your teen years and transgressed into adulthood without experience then the future field looks grim. It's like hoping to get into a good college without a proper degree or at least it seems: which is the biggest problem. Despondency can be a slippery slope; there's no safety net for us. Maybe success changes the scope but that's not a promise
I know it's irrational because of the sheer amount of people on the planet but at this point, if you haven't sprouted from the peduncles of social opportunity, chances are, that you're likelier not to compared to most people. It's still irrational not to try, from that point of view, but the knowledge that you're going against the field will affect you and your life to the point where trying's a herculean effort.
I'm typically seen as average-to-decent looking male in my circles but currently losing the reproductive race to men without jobs, some illiterate, without homes, and porous personalities among other things. It feels parodic sometimes- (mostly just talking about college girls btw) I don't even entertain anytime that I think someone may be flirting with me, even when I feel 80% sure- Only leads to despair. Dark despair. Even today, I felt like my sisters' friend might have made several attempts at me but I didn't pay it no nevermind. Just can't afford it. Thought I knew enough about body language to know what's what but apparently I really don't.
Me and my FoBAF brethren just want safety
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