Tanker wrote:
I'm 33, 130 kg's, strong, black hair, white skin. I make for an imposing figure. I often intimidate people or seemingly scare them, merely by being near.
On the inside, I feel small and vulnerable. Likely because I was always picked on, bullied, etc. I often misjudge how wide my shoulders are and I've gotten stuck in doorposts...
My question is, or i was wondering, if this is something other guys struggle with. Because it is not helping the whole dating thing, when you look like a giant block of angry xD
I recently joined group therapy and I've begun to learn that a lot of what I think of as normal, isn't. I reasoned this might also be the case for this vague odd... thing.
Cheers.
I think this is fairly common. One of my friends. Two of my friends are big, imposing looking men but one of them is shy and sensitive and has a lot of anxiety and the other used to lament how he wished he weren't so tall because he didn't get the emotional support he needed.