Chances of cheating

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Still haven't been kissed on the lips - everything else after that in love hasn't happened yet. Haven't dated yet. Have always been single. When I do find the woman I'm looking for, I've spent so much time being single that I literally cannot afford to cheat on her. I am 32.

Enough about me, though.

Does having never been in a relationship make me more likely to be loyal to my future girlfriend, as opposed to someone my age or older who has gone through 5+ women (and are babydaddys) since high school? Or is it the opposite?

Just trying to find some positive things to market about myself.

It's possible, but as far as I'm concerned, I don't see any direct correlation between loyalty and chronic singlehood. I think it's a matter of personality first and foremost - introverts, for instance, are known for their loyalty, which makes them great friends and partners. Quite simply, some people are very loyal to their partners, others less so. I just fail to see how it'd have anything to do with how many partners they've had in the past.

I recently read a post somewhere where a woman complained that her boyfriend who had never had a relationship before cheated on her once getting attention from other women because he thought maybe "the grass might be greener" with someone else (having only ever had one relationship, how would you know). I have also seen plenty of people (especially one's who have been burned in the past) say that people who have too many relationships are disloyal. People often seem to bias themselves against a certain group of people due to a past experience, that can work for you or against you, but can't really avoid it.

I agree with whatamievendoing. What determines if you are loyal or not isn't number of past relationships. I would also add that I think Aspies have a reputation as loyal and honest, more so then long term single people. In reality, it's the individual that matters the most. I would say, by all means, highlight the fact that you believe yourself to be loyal, but advertise it as an aspect of your personality, not something that is tied to your lack of relationships.

Your chances of cheating are 1 in 3.1416.

Seriously.....I don't believe the possibility of cheating is higher if someone is "inexperienced." In fact, it's quite possible that a person who is "inexperienced" might be the type to be more faithful than one who has slept around a bit.

Only you can answer that question.

You could say something to the effect that you're loyal & interested in a monogamous relationship, but IMO you do Not want to market to anyone that you've never so much as kissed anyone - it'll be a social/relationship red flag that screams "Wtf is wrong with this guy that he's never so much as kissed anyone by now?"

That's my take. If you're going to market it, keep those details to yourself and Only sell the positive spin.

I think someone's personality plays a large part in it, as well as the opportunities available, and temptations at the time. Some people can control themselves, some people can't.