OK if it so impossible, how did my boyfriend find me?

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If you don’t want to do any socialisation apart from dating sites, you’re pretty much screwed.

No, women don’t like being “hit on”, but they do like being approached as people and chatted to as people, not a vagina.

People meet throgh friends, dance classes, work, clubs, church, volunteer work, friends of friends. You really have to put in some effort.

You really need to fix your issues before someone will date you. If you think people think that about people eating alone, there is something pretty seriously wrong with you. Most people think “what a goer” when they see someone making an effort, even if alone.

People who make fun of people on their own aren’t worth knowing.

No such thing as a free lunch. If you can’t make yourself do anything then you probably need to see a doctor about your serotonin levels.

I have never seen anyone alone in the movies; either couples, or
families with little kids or large groups of annoying teens who never shut up during the movie.

Same for restaurants at night and during weekends.

The only instance where I see people alone in a resto is during weekdays at lunch break times - which is normal.

There was a rather interesting radio show broadcast by Jean Shepherd, if I remember correctly, on August 18, 1964. If you get a chance, find a copy and listen to it. It is probably available on http://archive.org.


Here it is! https://archive.org/details/JeanShepherd1964pt2/1964_08_18_Monster_Mothers.mp3

In the latter part of the show, he is talking about modern literature and its view of women. He says that there is a major difference between the authors of New York City and the authors of the mid west in their view toward women and finding the right women who would love the man -- noone else would do. To literary mind from New York City, it was like there was one ideal woman and the man was a failure if he didn't win her over. In the mid west, it was seen that if one woman rejected a man, there were other women around who would love him.

However, in literature, it was the New York City version (and to a large degree the same view in the South) that was portrayed because the publishing houses and noted authors and literary reviewers were invariably from New York City and could not understand the view of those in the mid west and that authors from the mid west had trouble getting their stories and books published because to the minds of the publishing houses, authors, and literary reviewers, the idea that there were more women around that could love a man was incomprehensible because it didn't match their view of love and marriage at all.

That is largely in the second half of the show, but the first half is interesting as well in that he talked a lot about what we now call helicopter mothers who take a great deal of control over the lives of their sons and daughters. According to him, these helicopter mothers were very prevalent in New York City but were practically unknown in the mid west where mothers wanted their kids to solve their own problems instead of them solving the problems of the kids for them.

That may not the best Jean Shepherd radio show, but it is easily one of his best shows.

If you don't now who Jean Shepherd was, he was the buy who wrote the short story that the movie, A Christmas Story, was made from about the kid who wanted a Red Ryder BB gun for Christmas.