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29 Jun 2018, 4:26 pm

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... Some people want to make little to no effort in life and blame everyone when they fail to tend to the seeds which produce a fruitful tree...
This.

Those same people will ask for advice, dismiss each suggestion (whether they've tried it or not), and then blame everything and everybody except themselves for their failure to connect.

"Oh, but girls have it easy ... all they have to do is show up!" :roll:

"I'm so damned ugly that if ugly was a crime, I'd get the electric chair!" :roll:

"God doesn't want me to have a girlfriend!" :roll:

"It's those
<insert profane adjective here>-ing <insert misogynist epithet here> and their <insert profane adjective here>-ing high standards!" :roll:

"I can't get a girlfriend because no one will give me a job!" :roll:

"If only Sharia Law was in force; then they would HAVE to put out for me!"
:roll:

... yeah ... sure, guys ... whatever ... :roll:


All true. However, everything happens for a reason.. and maybe the reason those people are single is because they are supposed to be, and they just haven't learned or accepted that yet. Maybe that's the Universe' way of doing what's right for others when these people haven't figured out that they're not supposed to be in relationships dragging others down with them.


what a load of poppycock

everything happens for a reason, and they're single so as to not drag the others down?

and what about those in the relationships who are dragging others down, that's also for a reason?


Everything happens for a reason.. sometimes we don't know what that reason is yet.

Maybe they're meant to learn from their mistakes and not do that to someone again? Maybe they're meant to teach the other person that they deserve better?


does that mean that there's a reason for those children dying in syria? or children dying from cancer, AIDS; ebola? what lesson do they have to learn?

people like to assign reason to the universe so as to make it more tamable and less cruel, but truth be told it's just an anthropocentric explanation. Was the universe made just for us? I don't think so. we know s**t about what is there, and how and why it came to be and why we're still here.


I never claimed to know the reason everything happens. This is one of those times where I don't know what those reasons are yet - and may never know. Keep asking; maybe you'll learn.


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29 Jun 2018, 4:39 pm

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... people like to assign reason to the universe so as to make it more tamable and less cruel, but truth be told it's just an anthropocentric explanation...
People also like to assign "reason to the universe" in a vain effort to absolve themselves of responsibility for their own actions.

I mean, how convenient for them to have an entire universe to blame for the problems they cause for themselves. Why not blame something that's beyond their ability to control for their lack of "Luck with the Ladies" so they don't have to bathe, brush, floss, deodorize, dress well, go out, mingle, smile, listen, laugh, and socialize? Why not blame the infinite, uncaring universe instead of their own laziness, lack of personal hygiene, ignorance, body odor, bad breath, and poor manners?

This is why people invent ridiculous things like astrology, numerology, and entire nations of supernatural "gods" who have nothing better to do with their immortality than to determine what vexations they will inflict on us mere mortals.

Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.


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29 Jun 2018, 4:41 pm

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Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.


And stars lie within us, so now we have a circular reference of cause/effect & blame.


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29 Jun 2018, 4:43 pm

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Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.
And stars lie within us...
Evidence, please?

I, for one, do not have a multi-trillion kilogram ball of 5000°C hydrogen plasma inside my body.

GET REAL.


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29 Jun 2018, 4:55 pm

Fnord wrote:
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Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.
And stars lie within us...
Evidence, please?

I, for one, do not have a multi-trillion kilogram ball of 5000°C hydrogen plasma inside my body.

GET REAL.


Everything we are made up of came from cosmic dust.

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29 Jun 2018, 4:57 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
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Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.
And stars lie within us...
Evidence, please? I, for one, do not have a multi-trillion kilogram ball of 5000°C hydrogen plasma inside my body. GET REAL.
Everything we are made up of came from cosmic dust...
It'll take more than pretty pictures and Carl Sagan quotes to convince me that the universe is sentient.

Take your fantasies to PP&R.


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29 Jun 2018, 4:59 pm

Fnord wrote:
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... people like to assign reason to the universe so as to make it more tamable and less cruel, but truth be told it's just an anthropocentric explanation...
People also like to assign "reason to the universe" in a vain effort to absolve themselves of responsibility for their own actions.



i don't understand why you take it so personally. if you find them so annoying, why not ignore them? no one is forcing you to read their threads. it's not that they didn't try. they tried damn hard, i know, i was there. and no, sometimes it just doesn't click, i don't know why, i wish i knew, then i'd be able to help and not see my friends suffer.



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29 Jun 2018, 5:00 pm

Fnord wrote:
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Get real! Our fates lie not in the stars, but within ourselves.
And stars lie within us...
Evidence, please?

I, for one, do not have a multi-trillion kilogram ball of 5000°C hydrogen plasma inside my body.

GET REAL.

Maybe he ate Mexican food.



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29 Jun 2018, 5:08 pm

Booyakasha wrote:
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... people like to assign reason to the universe so as to make it more tamable and less cruel, but truth be told it's just an anthropocentric explanation...
People also like to assign "reason to the universe" in a vain effort to absolve themselves of responsibility for their own actions.
i don't understand why you take it so personally. if you find them so annoying, why not ignore them? No one is forcing you to read their threads. it's not that they didn't try. They tried damn hard, I know, I was there. and no, sometimes it just doesn't click, i don't know why, I wish I knew, then I'd be able to help and not see my friends suffer.
It bothers me because I know people who lead miserable lives solely because they believe that "dark forces" beyond their control are "out to get them", and it physically hurts to see them that way. No amount of reason, no amount of guidance, and no amount of pleading with them can convince them that they not only need to keep trying, but they need to keep trying the right things. If I can convince someone that it is not the universe that's at fault, that there is no female conspiracy to withhold love from them, and that they are not too ugly to even find love, then I'll have accomplished something worthwhile -- something with a higher purpose than mere platitudes and motivational quotes can porovide.


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29 Jun 2018, 5:13 pm

A lot of autistic men and women would be happier if they learned to enjoy being single. I'm not saying give up on finding a partner, but don't invest so much emotional energy in it. There's a whole lot more to life, and you don't want to miss out on other pursuits.



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29 Jun 2018, 5:57 pm

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It bothers me because I know people who lead miserable lives solely because they believe that "dark forces" beyond their control are "out to get them", and it physically hurts to see them that way. No amount of reason, no amount of guidance, and no amount of pleading with them can convince them that they not only need to keep trying, but they need to keep trying the right things. If I can convince someone that it is not the universe that's at fault, that there is no female conspiracy to withhold love from them, and that they are not too ugly to even find love, then I'll have accomplished something worthwhile -- something with a higher purpose than mere platitudes and motivational quotes can porovide.


And when we know the fault lies within us and don't blame the Universe or gods or w/e, what then?

I don't lead a miserable life, though. Just one of relationshipless solitude - which is due to the way that I am, not the way the Universe or w/e is.

Like someone else just said, so many on the spectrum would lead better lives if they found value & enjoyment in things besides relationships.


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29 Jun 2018, 10:03 pm

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The face of boo just likes an opening to bash females. There was seriously nothing aggressive about the OPs post. It had no deeper meaning. It’s exactly what I said a few posts up.

There was nothing aggressive in Boo's post too.


She’s just mad ever since I removed her from my fb.... ages ago.


Tbh, I hardly ever look at facebook. I’m not mad, either, I think your anti female cosmic battle is annoying.



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29 Jun 2018, 10:07 pm

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A lot of autistic men and women would be happier if they learned to enjoy being single. I'm not saying give up on finding a partner, but don't invest so much emotional energy in it. There's a whole lot more to life, and you don't want to miss out on other pursuits.

Be happy being alone, not loved by anyone, not respected by anyone, being an outcast from the world? How? Maybe if I was a billionaire I could learn to be happy single by spending loads of money and traveling the world, but as a poor person who can only sit in their room all the time when nit working there’s absolutely nithto enjoy being single.
Atleast in a relationship I could do things with her and spend time with her and not be alone in this hell we call a world.
There’s nothing more to life for me. I wake up, go to work go home, any time not working I, in my tiny room.



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29 Jun 2018, 10:10 pm

^ That sounds like the majority of people’s lives. Sleep, work and go home, unless you’re a social butterfly, which isn’t most people.

Can’t you go to the movies? Join something? Go out and have a cup of tea?

I went for a walk in the sun and had a cup of tea and it was a nice break to sitting on my sofa.



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29 Jun 2018, 10:15 pm

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^ That sounds like the majority of people’s lives. Sleep, work and go home, unless you’re a social butterfly, which isn’t most people.

Can’t you go to the movies? Join something? Go out and have a cup of tea?

I went for a walk in the sun and had a cup of tea and it was a nice break to sitting on my sofa.


Most people have a romantic partner they spend time with at home after work every night and or kids too. They have them as a reason to carry on.

Movies are social thing, I’m nit going to them alone. Join what? Everything in America requires a car.
Yeah I’ll go be the sadly ugly lonely guy drinking tea in public for people to look at and laugh at , no thanks.

As previous stated I have panic attacks just thinking of going for a walk alone. I have no one to do stuff with, they all had wives and families and don’t have time for a poor single friend.

I, the only one out of everyone I knew who doesn’t have a job, gf/wives and kids.