Women That Like to Play the Field

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It's often assumed men do this. Any women on here that like to do that?

It could mean dating more than one person at a time but having sexual intimacy with no one or being intimate with multiple partners.

Are you open about your playing the field policy or do you make each man think he is the only one you are dating?

When I was young it was one at a time. After my divorce I moved for my work to a small town in another province. It was about an hours drive to a big city, one to the east and one to the west. I dated men from both cities and also went out to dinner with another man if he was in town. We all knew we saw other people at times. It was a mixture of friendship and a bit of romance. Then I met my husband to be and I stopped seeing other men.

I’ve worked with waitresses who are open about this in private conversations with coworkers.

I think whether they tell the guy they’re seeing other people or not totally depends on the guy and the situation. If it’s just a hookup, the guy doesn’t need to know anything beyond pertinent info about sexual health.

I think it’s pretty much assumed by every guy meeting girls from dating/hookup apps that girls are also chatting with, meeting, dating, and likely sleeping with others. Unless there’s some sort of “Is this a relationship now?” Sort of conversation then I think the automatic assumption is that it’s just a casual date/hookup and should be treated as such.

I dunno about anyone on here, but I would imagine that this is pretty well equal between the sexes. Some people like to play the field, and some people are a "one at a time" kinda person. Also, I think it's best not to tell the other person you are also dating other people.

That seems rather dishonest. If I found out about such a thing being kept from me I'd immediately consider the person a probable cheater and no longer be able to trust them.

If they specifically ask about it, then yeah, I would be honest with them about it, but otherwise, it is usually an unstated assumption that the other person is probably dating other people. Once the relationship reaches the committed boyfriend/girlfriend status, playing the field is considered cheating, though.

Personally, I'm a "one person at a time" kinda guy, though, and I don't really like the idea of dating multiple people at the same time (especially not sleeping around with them), and I'm not too fond of the person I'm dating doing the same thing, although I recognize that it is probably pretty common.

I saw a lot if "Playing the Field" on both sides while in the Navy. The most significant difference was that the men would brag about the number of their "conquests", while the women pretended to be with only one man at a time.

One woman (an E3 non-rate, striking for RM) was dating someone pierside while engaged to a PO3. After she and her fiancé got married and he shipped out, she was caught in bed with one of the junior officers. The woman was all "Don't tell my husband", while the Lt bragged that she was "worth it" (e.g., being confined to quarters for 30 days plus other penalties).

Same here. I don't do dating, but I'd assume any real love interest would be exclusive from the start, and I don't think the "exclusive talk" is necessary. Boyfriend/girlfriend status for me is just a formality. At least, if a love interest dated somebody or slept with other people, I'd consider that as cheating regardless if we were a couple or not. OTOH, I'm not too concerned about cheating either, unless it involved fooling me into bringing up somebody else's child.

A married man would not brag about it though, the guy in your example is a single bachelor.

The Lt was married. Where I grew up, "Real Men" would often brag to their buddies about having been with other men's wives, and then deny everything to their own wives ... who were often in the company of other wives' husbands. Not the majority, mind you; but only a significantly vocal minority.

It's amazing what you can overhear when the speaker is drunk ... "In Vino Veritas".

Maybe these women brag about it with their girl friends too.

Even then, I like to check. Polyamory is hugely popular at the moment!

Pththpt! It isn't cheating until the person in the dark suit says, "I now pronounce you..." et cetera.

I’ve found that one man is more than enough trouble for me.

^FTW^

i don't date quite often but when i was in budapest i got a few dates on tinder and i would be honest about the guys that i was talking/seeing other guys, often i even would talk about other guys to them which i guess isn't a very good thing to do