biostructure wrote:
yellowtamarin wrote:
I don't know.
For me though, I have plenty of experience, but am still childlike in the sense that I don't want/need to "progress" things in a relationship. That is, I have no interest in cohabiting, sharing finances, marrying, or having babies. A relationship for me is mostly about sharing minds and having fun.
Not sure if that's at all what you meant.
The "sharing minds and having fun" part and not "progressing things" as you put it is definitely what I would want out of a relationship too. Your post gives me hope that I might be able to find that even in someone who has dated before.
But as far as this thread, I WAS wondering about women who not only are still at that stage of not wanting/needing to progress, but haven't yet managed to experience that "sharing minds and having fun" with someone of the opposite sex (or with whatever sex they are attracted to), because nobody has ever been interested, all those who were did want to move in and share finances and those things, or any other number of reasons. In other words, how many don't even know yet what a relationship is like?
I think compatibility in what you expect from a relationship and where you want it to go is more important than whether someone has dated before or not. I've not really dated but that does not mean that I'd want a potential relationship to remain a 'teenager' kind of relationship forever. Not having had a relationship before can be an indication of at what pace you want it to progress and I'd assume you might feel different about your first relationship than about your 50th but it may not be the best predictor for where you want it to go. I feel too young for my age in some ways but not in others.
I know 3 aspie women (two only online, one in real life) who are childlike in a lot more ways than I am and all three of them lack dating experience (two are early 20s one is late 20s). However, while they'd definitely want a 'teenager' kind of relationship if any at all, it's probably more early teenage years than the relationship you have in mind. Two of them are asexual and the third seems to be insecure about sex. I don't have any statistics on it, but this staying very childlike and being asexual might be correlated in aspie women.