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Hey everyone. I’m Kaden and I’m a diagnosed Aspie. I’m a freshman in college and I’ve been having a really hard time finding enough drive or desire to do anything. I never want to go to class because it’s very overwhelming and my parents always yell at me whenever I don’t go. I’m extremely lonely and feel like the few friends I have just keep me around to use me because I’m an empath. It feels like they only talk to me when it’s of benefit to them. I’m a huge hopeless romantic and have had awful luck with relationships. I’m 19 and have only ever had one relationship which was long distance and lasted barely under a month. It just seems like nobody wants to talk to me no matter what I do or say. I’m lost.

Your college may have mental health resources available for students. They're a great place to go not only to look into getting a therapist - which can be very useful during life transitions like your first year of college - but also as a resource for finding help with other things, like figuring out how to make your classes less overwhelming. Is it the academic pressure or the sensory environment that is overwhelming? Or both? There are often resources for each available, you just may not know where to look for them.

Don't panic just because you haven't dated yet though! I'm a woman and yet I still didn't have a boyfriend until I was 19. You still have time. Maybe look for student groups that have to do with things you're interested in. I leaned heavily on my school's anime club for social company when I was in undergrad. They were all as delightfully awkward as I was, so I felt more comfortable.