first impressions

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when you first encounter a woman, what makes you want to get to know her better?

(i'm hoping for things that can be influenced or changed. ie. while "big chest" is a great reason for wanting to hang out with a woman, I can't change my size )

Technically you can change your weight. My chest got bigger when I gained several pounds although I'd rather be slimmer with a smaller chest. I've found that many (not all) guys decide they want to know a girl better if they want to get in her pants. Obviously, I haven't had the greatest experiences. But if you're talking about people in general, what makes me want to get to know someone better is if they are open and friendly. I like candid conversations and talking to people who aren't afraid to say what they think. Also, good hygiene and clean clothes always helps.

i just wondered if there was anything else i could do besides act more sexual to let guys know if i like them.

I want to get to know women better if they seem nice towards me

Ask follow up questions?

I mostly look for people with the same interests.

You can change your size. Lipo for smaller, implants for bigger.

There's also some meds & maybe some supplements that can make them bigger but it's kinda a long term thing

I am most attracted to intelligence, with physical appearance a distant second. Yes, I know that is not how most men think or act.

how do you detect intelligence when you first encounter a woman?
what does she say or do to make you realize she is intelligent?

It depends on the guy. Some guys are very superficial and their interest will be based on stuff like size and height etc. Some guys will hinge their interest on your passions and interests and what you talk about. Personally I think most guys fall somewhere in between (although who knows these days).

I would point out that acting more sexual may not be the best way to connect with guys because that can indicate to them you're not interested in anything but a physical relationship.

My advice would be to focus on connecting with him on a personal level by talking about your interests and what you do in your life (and of course talk to him about his). Leave him to make the decision on whether he is physically attracted to you or not.

I read a thread on another AS site and it was asking if there was a 'type' the guys on there went for. The consensus seemed to be intelligent, kind and artistic. The more I got to read up on Aspie girls the more I realised they were looking for their aspie counterparts.
I wouldn't 'act' more sexual... asking for attention from the wrong types and will end in tears.

Open body language - turning their body or feet towards you, arms and legs uncrossed, showing their wrist, eye contact, mirroring, dilation of the pupils
Friendliness.
Interesting conversation.
If they "take the piss" or tease me they get extra points.

They always teach in behavioural studies that crossed arms is a sign of defensiveness or trying to hide something. I generally cross my arms when standing as I find it comfortable. I feel silly with them just dangling by my sides! When I was teaching I would always have to counter the mainstream teaching because of that. Just like someone having shaky hands. Supposedly a sign of nervousness. Also a sign of Parkinson’s. I definitely agree though with the extra points for teasing.

I'm attracted to all kinds of girls/women. I just want them to be nice to me. In fact, a lot of times I find that my attraction for them intensifies when they show interest in me.

Same here for me. There are other things I like in women but they're not huge factors or anything. My current girlfriend doesn't meet all of them but it's OK I really do love her despite that. I became attracted to most any girl who was nice to me after a bit(who wasn't much older than me, already in a relationship, or an out lesbian) but unfortunately they only saw me as a friend & some even got upset because they thought I was gay.