After reading nearly every "I Can't Get A Date" post and thread written by incels on this website, I have to agree with the following professional assessment:
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Incel society is comprised mainly of young men who feel entitled to sex with women and -- in the most extreme cases -- believe violence is a solution for their relational and sexual frustrations.
These young men are disillusioned, angry, and are looking for relational and/or sexual validation to temper all their past insecurities, hurts, and deep wounds. Some have experienced abuse, neglect, or humiliation from loved ones. Some have been bullied and teased mercilessly for their looks, interests, and even ethnic heritage.
What they feel is a sense of rejection: They have no one to confide in about their physical, emotional, or relational traumas growing up. Without a human being to give them a sense of security, emotional attachment, and bonding, they are left to fend for themselves, so they look for validation via online forums, websites, and social media. But with few real relationships, their emotional growth is stunted. Instead of taking ownership and responsibility for their hurts, they are stuck in a perpetual cycle of shame and blame.
They feel the shame of inadequacy, defectiveness, and abject self-hatred that can eventually lead them to blame attractive members of society for their lot in life.
These young men are often also devoid of true male role models. Instead, they turn to authors of books who "teach" them how to pick-up women using tactics that hinge on targeting women's insecurities. These are their mentors into adulthood.
In addition, toxic masculinity has often taught these men to never show weakness, to degrade women, and to objectify them. Consequently, they detach from themselves and others. They struggle with connection, vulnerability, and authenticity. They are challenged to find their core, their true self, and their sense of purpose; but instead fantasize that a sexual relationship will cure what ails them, not realizing it is a mirage: The tonic for their souls can not be found externally but must be found internally.
Source: This Psychology Today Article
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