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23 Nov 2018, 4:03 pm

I’m talking to a guy, he wants a mommy figure & I really like him & he like me, he told me, he want to call his lover, mommy. That is too weird for me, I don’t want to be like a mother to a man that I really like & love talking too. We have things in common like dyslexia, he has a little bit of dyslexia & adhd. I don’t know what to do. Can someone please help me?



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23 Nov 2018, 4:29 pm

If a woman was interested in me because she has unresolved “daddy issues”, I would be creeped-out, run away from her, and never speak to her again.



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24 Nov 2018, 5:57 pm

Fnord wrote:
If a woman was interested in me because she has unresolved “daddy issues”, I would be creeped-out, run away from her, and never speak to her again.
Both my exes had daddy issues & it didn't bother me that much. There were times I really felt like I was being/acting like a parent because I had to but I'm very protective of women I love & I also think being emotionally supportive is my strong point within a realtionship. I'm immature for my age too so being with a girl who has daddy issues doesn't seem that odd for me thou I totally get why it'll be a problem for lots of other guys. I sometimes feel like a parent with my current girlfriend too cuz she's dealing with a lot of mental & physical issues but she doesn't really have daddy issues. In some ways she probably feels like a parent with me too thou because I have my issues I'm dealing with but I think that's kind of a trade off that's balancing out some. I don't really have any advice for Kitty thou except to try & take the relationship slow for a while at 1st so they can both kinda get the feel of things.


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24 Nov 2018, 9:36 pm

nick007 wrote:
Fnord wrote:
If a woman was interested in me because she has unresolved “daddy issues”, I would be creeped-out, run away from her, and never speak to her again.
Both my exes had daddy issues & it didn't bother me that much. There were times I really felt like I was being/acting like a parent because I had to but I'm very protective of women I love & I also think being emotionally supportive is my strong point within a realtionship. I'm immature for my age too so being with a girl who has daddy issues doesn't seem that odd for me thou I totally get why it'll be a problem for lots of other guys. I sometimes feel like a parent with my current girlfriend too cuz she's dealing with a lot of mental & physical issues but she doesn't really have daddy issues. In some ways she probably feels like a parent with me too thou because I have my issues I'm dealing with but I think that's kind of a trade off that's balancing out some. I don't really have any advice for Kitty thou except to try & take the relationship slow for a while at 1st so they can both kinda get the feel of things.




I’m immature for my age too, I’m 48, but I can feel, act, think & look Very Young, I can acted like I’m in my 20s again or in my early 30s. My dad saw me acted like I was younger, he told me act my age. I Hate that he think he still knows me, I have not lived with him since I was 16, I told him I developed ALOT of symptoms cuz of my Aspergers late in life, he didn’t care, he wanted things done his way, my older sister inherited ALOT of things from him, they both think the same & care less about you. He saw me acted that why when he was taking me to the doctor for my ankle, that was the last time I talk to him, I have not talked to him in a little over a month. :D Next time, I should tell him you acted like a child once :D .



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25 Nov 2018, 6:58 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
I’m talking to a guy, he wants a mommy figure...he want to call his lover, mommy. That is too weird for me, I don’t want to be like a mother to a man...I don’t know what to do. Can someone please help me?


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25 Nov 2018, 10:33 am

I’ve dated once a woman who turned out to be into DDLG (Dom Dad - Little Girl); I ran away, fast.



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25 Nov 2018, 6:41 pm

I’m not talking to him anymore :D I was talking to 4 guys, I either stop talking to them or they disappeared on me :cry: I wish i can talk better. My first message to them, is usually ‘Hi’



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25 Nov 2018, 7:54 pm

Maybe start with how their day is going? Or perhaps a question about something that interested you on their profile?


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25 Nov 2018, 10:51 pm

Shinku Tora wrote:
Maybe start with how their day is going? Or perhaps a question about something that interested you on their profile?

Thanks