Being successful at dating sites

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Well, I'm not a big fan of dating apps but I am already registered on a dating site or two.
The biggest problem I currently have is the first message I am sending to women.
Would it be better off to just leave her my phone number, and hope she would call?
Or start by introducing myself, tell myself a thing or two, and wait for her to response(if at all), and tell me about herself as well?
What should I talk to her about in the first few messages in the conversation?
Since it's a dating site, its different than meeting a woman in the real life.
I would assume you need to use different words or use a different attitude.
When I left my phone number right from the beginning - I didnt even get one single call, but maybe that was because I wasnt sending enough messages.

You want to sound interested about her and give some information about yourself. Hi doesn't create a conversation and you need to know if she is okay with chatting on the phone before giving her your number, most people don't want to give that out to a stranger.

I'd say the second option or at least something like that. Certainly do not just leave a phone number, they could worry that its a scam or something so the phone number would be better later on after you and her talk some. Or they might just be too nervous about calling someone they've never talked to even if they like your profile picture.

So yeah certainly introduce yourself and if you notice in her profile she has any similar interests or anything you can mention that. And if a conversation does get going then after some messaging back and fourth you can inquire about if they want to meet In real life sometime.

Definitely show interest by telling about yourself and asking about her.

The phonenumber thing is just dumb. I've only spoken to one girl once on a dating site and it was she that wanted to talk to me for ...reasons...! !?!? so i thought why not and gave it to her and we talked for a while.

I’m on dating app, I hadn’t been really lucky, I’m thinking of deleting my account at OkCupid.

I voted for the 2nd option of telling her about yourself & asking about her but it'll also help if you mention something that's relevant to something she put in her profile or ask her about something she mentioned in her pro. It shows you read her profile instead of just mass messaged the same thing to every woman on there who you thought was pretty.

hit her up, it's the internet