My Intuition is telling me to go after her again

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There is this girl who I only hang out with once and chatted over messages for several weeks like 4 months ago. Her work got in the way and we became distant. I chased her for a bit but stopped because I felt I looked desperate. However, my intuition is telling me to go after her again. I never listen to it before because I thought it was just my head being wacky but I always end up regretting it. So I feel like I should learn from my past mistakes and at the same time, when I think about it some more. I might end up looking desperate if it doesn't work out. Idk maybe it will work out this time because judging from her snapchat story. She has a lot of free time now while before it was just selfies of her in her work clothes. Should I go after her and see what happens? or don't do nothing at all?

Just try. Worst that can happen if you don’t, she won’t be interested. Worst that can happen if you do, she won’t be interested.

She probably won't notice your interested in her if you don't make a move. It's better to take a chance & risk looking desperate than to do nothing knowing you'll never get her that way.

Well, people don't usually just become distant because "work got in the way." People will often throw in the "work" excuse because they want to let you down easy. It's just another way of saying "not interested." So when suddenly someone says "hey, I'm not busy anymore," it's more like she feels the excuse did its job. Whoever it is bugging her about dating has dropped off the radar and she thinks you're not watching anymore. The second you show up to ask her out, I can almost guarantee she's gonna say something like, "Yeah...see...I'm really flattered and all, but see...all this stuff just happened over the weekend, and I got all these people giving me a hard time, and I think maybe I just need to focus on ME for a while."

Prove me wrong.

Seriously, prove me wrong. I honestly think you should definitely approach her and just see what she says. I don't think you're going to get anywhere, so I'm going to say don't get your hopes up. At this point I'm really just curious as to how accurate I am. Just don't get your feelings hurt no matter what happens.

Work and school are both real excuses, people only have so much energy to use on a daily basis, and if you want to focus on work it might require stepping away from other people.

Work & school pretty much account for some peoples' entire lives these days. Make a friend & see what happens.

They are real excuses. I just don’t believe the girl in this case is actually being truthful.

I am actively raising my own children to deliberately put work and school ahead of romantic relationships. I honestly believe it’s the right thing to do. And I don’t see where it’s written that I’m obligated to allow my children to have these relationships while under my care. If someone asked my daughter out to something I couldn’t directly chaperone, I expect her answer to be “no.”

It’s not a common attitude in this day and age, so I’m naturally skeptical. I’m even more skeptical when it comes to someone holding down a secure job. When someone, even if it were my own children once they fly the coup, wants to do something bad enough, like social activities and dating, they WILL make it happen.

This girl was clearly not interested in making it happen. This is especially true if she’s being honest. I seriously do NOT believe this to be the case.

That’s why I’m so eager to be proven wrong. I WANT to be wrong. I’m deeply interested in this thread and the actual outcome.

I’m going to make another prediction. I’m predicting YeFan is going to chicken out and not even bother. I don’t want that, either. So now YeFan has not one but TWO challenges to put ol’ GrandaddyRho in his place. Let’s go, son...

I’ll be waiting...

Well I already message her and communication has restarted at the moment. I will let you know what happens in the future by PM (and I can PM anyone else who is interested) but please slow down on the two challenges thing. I am not going to try to put you in your place because that is just silly to me

Good luck!

Thank you

You could message her and see what happens.. but don't expect much, or even a reply. If people are interested they will keep in contact and make time for you. When they're not that interested, or not at all.. they won't.