It’s driving me crazy...

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She sounds like someone who tells people what she thinks they want to hear. I don't think she is capable of having an actual relationship any more than a cat can bark.

I can't say I was born knowing how to do it, but I learned that cutting off all contact and regrouping was the only way to move forward. Long tearful goodbyes and staying friends might sound like a favor on their part, but all it ever did was hold me back.

I really hope this doesn't ruin the future for you, love shouldn't make you feel suspicious.

She's bonkers, she will be a cancer to everyone. It's good that it all came out. The earlier you move on from those people, the better.

now I wonder if my Tinnitus that first appeared on last august was due to some virus i caught thro her.

I deleted this dating app and its account,

If you are wondering how all these got discovered all the sudden, this what happened:

Before deleting my account, i was dead curious if any guys active there would recognize her; i created a another account with gender female and put the pic of us together and set filter in a way to be visible by straight guys only.

And this what all came out of it. 2 guys recognized her in less than 10 hours.
No way these 2 guys could guess these things (her name, her job, her smoke habit, description of body) about her by coincidence, they’re not lying then, she was really dating them a month ago.

Enough... i will leave online dating until further notice.


Now I know what’s wrong with her: intense hypersexuality

Last edited by SaveFerris on 27 Jan 2019, 2:31 pm, edited 2 times in total.: by request

I am more in peace with myself now, because I am now totally convinced that I was cheated to get the benefits from someone more useful to her. I was completely in a total insane mode (walking dead, overthinking...etc) for the last few days.

She said it herself in the the first partial screenshot i posted.
In my last conversation with the roommate, I learned that the guy is a Turkish driver of a high officer in the Lebanese General Security; he convinced her that his employer can help her.


I had the change to date with someone new this weekend (no, she's not the roommate), but I am hesitating - I don't think I ll be in the mood. I am still in this mourning phase for sure.

I’m very sorry that this happened to you. It would be horrible, and it’s bad enough hearing about it happening to other people.

I think you should be proud for what you said when you went back to the apartment and saw her again. Some of that made me smile - she deserved it.

I don’t think she feels any shame tho, I asked her many things, most importantly I asked her when she started with all this cheating.
And she was like “why do you need to know all these details? it just happened”
For her, me wanting to know when exactly it happened is just an unnecessary detail.

Sounds like you're making good progress on the psychological side of things Boo. Very nice.

And this sort of thing is why I don't trust people the tiniest bit. Sociopaths are impossible to read until it's too late.

I've had premature "I love yous" too, they're usually red flags. But that doesn't help you. I'm really sorry this happened to you Boo, you didn't deserve it.

I remember that I did view it as a red flag, her first "I love you" was within the 2nd week of dating (and after months of chatting online) - and I remember telling her "Dear, what we have is just lust for now, not love" ; my first "I love you" was months after that; and she kept celebrating this day as a monthsary every month. All fake probably....

Obviously what happened that my lust turned to love over time, while her 'love' was actually just lust all the way and remained so till it died, and man it died so quickly just upon meeting the next guy (she met him on the same day when we last had sex, and the roommate told me they started dating probably at 3th-4th day).

Maybe people like that have a lack of feelings in general. It's almost like a whoopsy to her and she didn't mean it to be so intense (from her POV). I wouldn't trust my judgement on that though because I really don't know her.

A whoopsy that she kept saying it and texting it, even on the same morning when I discovered her cheating.

I meant...hmm. I have a tendancy to say the wrong things on this type of topic, so I'm going to have to stop talking, sorry.

No, it's ok, frankly the bad feeling returned before that in early evening.

Maybe because it's Saturday night , the first one as single since 2 years, and I am sure she's spending it with this new guy.