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21 Jan 2019, 7:26 pm

I’m already messing things up in my relationship. I should have told him I think that way cuz of Aspergers. I don’t want to lose him. Why couldn’t I be normal?

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21 Jan 2019, 7:33 pm

Think what way?

ShyGirl7
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21 Jan 2019, 8:33 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:

I’m already messing things up in my relationship. I should have told him I think that way cuz of Aspergers. I don’t want to lose him. Why couldn’t I be normal?

What are the reasons you feel that you are messing up things in the relationship?

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22 Jan 2019, 1:00 am

ShyGirl7 wrote:

Kitty4670 wrote:

I’m already messing things up in my relationship. I should have told him I think that way cuz of Aspergers. I don’t want to lose him. Why couldn’t I be normal?

What are the reasons you feel that you are messing up things in the relationship?

I was honest with him, I told him I was insecure in the relationship & I wondering why he wanted to be my boyfriend. Maybe I should not have told him.

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22 Jan 2019, 2:31 am

Kitty4670 wrote:

ShyGirl7 wrote:

Kitty4670 wrote:

I’m already messing things up in my relationship. I should have told him I think that way cuz of Aspergers. I don’t want to lose him. Why couldn’t I be normal?

What are the reasons you feel that you are messing up things in the relationship?

I was honest with him, I told him I was insecure in the relationship & I wondering why he wanted to be my boyfriend. Maybe I should not have told him.

It’s always better to be honest, and it was a good idea to ask him that.

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22 Jan 2019, 11:44 am

It's best to be honest, it saves you both the potential hurt.

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22 Jan 2019, 5:36 pm

InquisitveJay wrote:

It's best to be honest, it saves you both the potential hurt.

You are right. My boyfriend lives in UK too.

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22 Jan 2019, 7:02 pm

My boyfriend did said that we should be honest in our relationship that way we can build a stronger relationship, that what he wants, he wants our relationship to last forever, I want that too.

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22 Jan 2019, 11:19 pm

My boyfriend did said that we should be honest in our relationship that way we can build a stronger relationship, that what he wants, he wants our relationship to last forever, I want that too.

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24 Jan 2019, 10:37 am

SilentJessica wrote:

Kitty4670 wrote:

ShyGirl7 wrote:

Kitty4670 wrote:

I’m already messing things up in my relationship. I should have told him I think that way cuz of Aspergers. I don’t want to lose him. Why couldn’t I be normal?

What are the reasons you feel that you are messing up things in the relationship?

I was honest with him, I told him I was insecure in the relationship & I wondering why he wanted to be my boyfriend. Maybe I should not have told him.

It’s always better to be honest, and it was a good idea to ask him that.

Exactly.

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26 Jan 2019, 5:21 am

Kitty4670 wrote:

I was honest with him, I told him I was insecure in the relationship & I wondering why he wanted to be my boyfriend. Maybe I should not have told him.

Hopefully he understands, or at least tries to, and likes/loves you enough to see past that, and try to make you feel more secure

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