“You’re hairy” / “I don’t like hairy”...

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When I keep hearing this from dates/prospects over and over and over and over again... do you think it’s time to take a leap of faith and remove my body hair (I won’t lie, the idea of itching chest terrifies me, I have tried something like that once and it was a nightmare)? It’s obvious the majority prefers me to do so.

What if you shaved your body hair, chest hair, whatever and started a relationship with a woman who didn't like hairy men and your relationship became serious? There would be only three possible outcomes that I could see:

1) She decides she likes you so much that she changes and loves you in all your hairy splendor if you decided to stop shaving your body hair.

2) You continue to shave your body hair for the rest of your life.

3) You have your body hair permanently removed.

A better option I think? Continue the search for a woman who would love you for who you are.

The hairless look is a bit of a fashion. If you have a gf who prefers you with less hair, get her to help you shave it down and have some fun in the process. Shaving's good enough, waxing is way too painful. Permanent hair removal (with laser treatment) is also quite painful and isn't 100% successful... the lighter your skin and the darker your hair the more successful it will be.

Yikes, I don't know, I'm more in the camp of don't do it, because once you start you have to keep doing it and, yeah, the growing back in part is horribly uncomfortable. I would think it's also expensive and time consuming.

But... if it doesn't work it will grow back, even if it's itchy for a while.

I would say that while you're not in a relationship or seeing someone, etc, do what you want with your body hair. If I were you I'd only start modifying my body hair once I had someone in my life worth getting rid of it for.

Also, if I had to get rid of my body hair, I'd probably wax it rather than shave it. It shouldn't be as itchy growing back in and it won't grow back as quickly.

I only shave my facial hair---and that's it.

As a female who once use to think "uck" when it came to body hair you should do whatever you want and makes you the most comfortable.

My ex was a pretty hairy guy and even though he'd told me beforehand I was still surprised the first time I saw him without a shirt. It took some getting use to but I did get use to it. But more than that, I liked him and as my feelings grew I came to adore all of him - including his furryness. So I am of the opinion that any woman that really likes you would accept all of you.

That said if you didn't want to remove the hair, just trimming things up in places can often make a difference.

^^^ a bit of thoughtful trimming is the best solution.

There are hair-removal products that work well. Some sort of cream that kind of just dissolves hair. Never used it myself, but a friend does and seems to think it works well.

With regards to shaving; as a fellow yeti who's tried it, I hope you don't tend towards ingrown hairs. Even someone who prefers smooth over hairy probably wont find creepy red pimples and blood all that preferrable.

I'm on meds that reduce my body hair growth. That's not the major reason I'm on it but it is one factor. I still have body hair but just not as much. That might be a middle ground between removing your hair & being as hairy as you are now. My girlfriend prefers me with less hair but she would still like me even if I was aLOT hairier but she's very different from the stereotyped woman. I'm not gonna tell you what you should or shouldn't do Boo, the choice is yours but I will say you do seem to get alot more dates than the average guy on WP. If you were someone who literally never got dates, then I would say it might be a good idea to remove your hair just to increase your odds.

I have extremely ingrowing hair on my legs.
The way I deal with them: trim them to 2-3mm with an electric trimmer and then bleach them blond with a simple hair bleach for "whole hair" (not "highlights" nor "baleyage" because those are too weak). This way they are hardly visible, they are not itchy and they don't grow in.

^^^a real smart cookie....