Why are things so awkward between us?

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i said hi to a guy and he seemed a bit caught off guard the other day that i did talk to him. I was sitting on break when he came in today, and kind of started talking to me for a few minutes, until we both got silent and wouldn't look at each other. I was doing something later, and he came up to me biting his tounge ams asked me a dumb question , where something was located that he should have known. Os there something going on?

Assuming you're an aspie (?), it sounds like he might either be another or else for some other reason(s) has less than fluid social skills, as an NT might put it. Therefore, the fact that he came back after you first initiated an exchange w/him and then you both tried to have another convo that sort've died, all of that may show that he was trying to restart a convo w/you. I don't know why, but there's a decent chance that that might've been why he asked you that question, taking it as an opportunity to try to start up another convo w/you. If you don't wanna engage, then don't and he'll likely get the message that you aren't interested. Otherwise, maybe he could be a new friend/acquaintance or something.

Also, it's possible he's "interested" in you. What you do about that, if you think it might be the case, is your call.

The way you describe it, there may have been more to it, yes, especially if it's really obvious that he should know where the thing is. I think the subtext is "I'm just looking for an excuse to talk to you, do you want to talk to me?"

Especially in the US, time is considered valuable. I think the idea that you'd share it for no more utilitarian "just business" purpose suggests it's "personal," hence "more."

As to why things are awkward, I'd say starting to talk and then not talking either sends a mixed signal or suggests either or both of you are nervous, suggesting there's an emotional connection. Of course, there's a fine line between nervousness and fear, the latter of which isn't conducive to relationship issues.

Last edited by Dan82 on 25 Apr 2019, 11:22 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Angel: The other question is how do you feel about him?

I kind of like him tbh

GO FOR IT, DUDE

EDIT: Specifically, I'd talk to him about something you'd talked about before to see if he's willing to talk about that, and then think about something kind of neutral to talk about that you didn't talk about before to see if he's willing to talk about new things (and not just interested in what you talked about before offhand).

They said men temporarily lose IQ points when they see an attractive women.

That's cuz they think with their other brain. At least that's what I hear women say about guys.

How do I delete posts? I checked a box earlier...

Last edited by Dan82 on 26 Apr 2019, 7:07 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I can't speak for other ASD men, but Boo is correct in my case and alot (if not most) NT men.

Angel: What Dan's saying sounds right too. You initiated in the first place, if you're comfortable doing so again, go for it.

Good luck!

Well him and i have talked a little bit the last two days id we have time when we work together.