Regarding Looking For Ones Opposite Half.

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I have not had much personal experience but I have noticed a few things... Here are a few thoughts along those lines.

Nothing ventured nothing gained. About twenty years ago I was working as head of a bicycle department in a local sports chain store. Now the young man who aas in charge of the fitness department next to mine started to date a young lady from the same store. It didn't work out... and I caught them the next day accusing each other of things that were not nice. Basically, as far as I can gather, despite outward appearances, she was very forward in dating terms and he was not. I said to both of them "Hey. You two have dated and found out that you both are very different kinds of people and it didn't work. If you had never dated how would you know? None of you have actually lost out". They both had a rethink and they were good friends and work collegues just like they were before.
Why say this? Well. Often we are hurt if it does not work and we blame the other person or ourselves. Yet we fail to see that part of dating is to find out if we are compatible with the other person. It is why I believe that sex before marriage is not a good plan and here in Britain the laws are very much stacked against the man so don't go there if you can help it. Also I will advise to date for a good while before deciding to marry. Why? Well. Through my experience, it takes at least six months minimum to get to really know the other person. Prior to this both people are blinded by love so don't see ones weaknesses (And lets face it, we all have them!) Only after we start to get used to each others weaknesses can we really get to know if the person is really compatible. So with this in mind, take your time and don't rush. Just enjoy the dating. No pressure. Relax.

So how does one find a date to begin with? Well, this I personally find to be a mystery, as I have to admit that I have only properly dated twice, and both times the lady concerned asked me out. I have been on two other single hour or two dates whee I asked the lady out whe I was in my confident years (Which I asked them out after I had got over the first date to try to prove to myself I could do it... But in both cases I couldn't get myself to be close to them as I was shrinking back... I think it was too soon after dating my first ever date when I was about 36 years old. So only twice so far I could say I have ever dated in a steady way.

Now my cousins eldest boy is still young. He is too forward in that he has jumped in feet first into sexual relationships and now has his third child, each child having been born from a different mother. The two first children he has to pay child maintenence on and though I never met the second lady, the first lady was sucn a horrible self centred and spoilt ungreatful person.... I couldn't believe it! Anyway. A tip. Have patience. Don't jump in feet first and regret it. But back to my cousins eldest. He seemed to be able to find dates one after the other. Now the last temporary part time job I took was before Christmas. I find I struggle to work these days and after doing a month of part time work I needed a good recovery time so I was relieved the job was temporary. Now my cousins eldest works there and that is how I had the temporary work. I asked him how he was able to find girlfriends so easily. He said "I don't know. I just ask them". Puzzled, I said "How many do you ask before you find one?" I couldn't believe his reply. "About 80. Maybe 100".
So what I say.Never give up. If it takes my cousins eldest (Who is not that bright but he is a very nice person who tries his best at all he does) to ask so many girls to get a date, then I am sure there is hope for us all.