16 Jul 2019, 2:20 am
You can date. Think of it this way. All you need to do if find a suitable potential partner and ask.
What if they say "No?" Just ask another and another until you find one. You only need to date one at a time. Think of the poor men in other countries who have to find and keep many wives for their social status... Whee wives are in short supply and he then has the financial burden and the difficulty in keeping them all happy... 
No, you are only looking for one person to be your other half.
There's plenty if fish in the sea... So make a loud splash and see what you can catch! Women... Wait on the pavement and when you see a passing man, grab him! (Ok, maybe not quite like that!) Men. See a lady? Ask her if she is available.
Age differences? Do they really matter. Well, when one is young maybe they do a little, but as one gets older it matters less. For me I would go a couple of years older or I would probably go down to about 15 years younger, but about 8 years younger may work better? But I am flexible. Mind you, I once hid in a toilet for four hours when a kind hearted dissabled lady the same age as my mother took a fancy to me and I didn't want to upset her feelings. She was a lovely lady, but when she started hugging me I felt like I was a banana being squeezed out of its skin! (I had spent two weeks volunteering looking after dissabled people while on holiday when I was in my very early 20's). Someone had played a joke on her and told her I fancied her I think... So age does matter a bit when taken to the extremes, but don't be too inflexible. You will find that some marriages work excellently even though there maybe a 20 year age difference! And if it works for them then great!
And what about social status? It does not matter either. When you find your opposite half, you both find your own status. And I will say something here. Those who restrict themselves to a certain status are missing out on all sorts of experiences in life. I feel sorry for the upper class who do not mix outside their status. They would find really honest and reliable friends if they were a little more flexible. It can be lonely at the top if one has an attitude problem.
What if it doesn't work? So what? Yes, suee it hurts... But pick your self back up, dust yourself down and find another. After all, you have experience now. Don't dwell on the negatives. Find the positives. And never ever think all men or all women are the same. That is like saying all NT's are the same or all autistics are the same. Yes, some are the same or very similar.... But why date another with the same character if it did not work the first time! Be flexible.
Sometimes blind dates work as they cut straight through any percieved ideas one has about life...
Getting a date may seem a little scary, but if one just gets up the courage to ask, you will already be half way there. Be confident and ask! And if it doesn't work, move on.
And if you want to protect yourself, a no sex dating is allowed. It means you can both enjoy each others presence and enjoy the dating experience without any big committments.
that1weirdgrrrl
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16 Jul 2019, 7:19 pm
Your outlook is great!
Remember to take your own advice too 
16 Jul 2019, 7:34 pm
Age and social status matter to some precious lil "people"
Even if they don't matter to you
Relationships are not magic or special
"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle"
Beggars can't be choosers
Monopolistic competition
Realistic
Reasonable
17 Jul 2019, 6:50 am
Remember to take your own advice too
Yes. I am giving myself advice as I write!
17 Jul 2019, 9:00 am
17 Jul 2019, 10:13 am
