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Kitty4670
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25 May 2019, 5:39 pm

Can you fall in love online?

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25 May 2019, 5:40 pm

Yes

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25 May 2019, 6:39 pm

Yes definitely.

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25 May 2019, 6:58 pm

Where two people fall in love w/each other? I don't know but probably since Twilight and April think so. I've actually had an online relationship or 2 a long time ago but it didn't end any better than my offline one. When I fall for someone I fall really hard to the point of it being quite difficult to get over her when I'm dumped.

Happy online dating!

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25 May 2019, 7:00 pm

Before the Internet, I had a two week erotic telephone fling with a college student who had long blonde hair.

I should have been in college at that time.

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25 May 2019, 7:04 pm

kraftiekortie wrote:

Before the Internet, I had a two week erotic telephone fling with a college student who had long blonde hair.

I should have been in college at that time.

Those can be fun.

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25 May 2019, 7:06 pm

It was...for two weeks!

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25 May 2019, 7:34 pm

Not really. You can't really know someone until you get to know them in person. It's very easy to be duplicious on the internet.

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25 May 2019, 8:31 pm

Personally I've always rejected the entire concept of "falling in love."

To me, true love is something that can only grow gradually, as you get to know someone. It can't be something you just "fall" into.

You cannot truly love someone whom you don't know well. If you "fall in love" with someone whom you don't yet know well, then what you have "fallen in love" with is not really the person, but only an image of that person that you hold in your head.

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25 May 2019, 10:44 pm

Yes you can.

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25 May 2019, 10:57 pm

I fell in love with all 3 of my girlfriends online

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26 May 2019, 12:41 am

I love my boyfriend, I always said I love you in text. Now I don’t know anymore, I used to feel love for him, I want to be sure what Love is. He been my boyfriend for over 4 months now.

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26 May 2019, 2:22 am

Mona Pereth wrote:

This.

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27 May 2019, 2:06 am

Mona Pereth wrote:

I don't think that is true. I'd say the natural path for true love starts with an infatuation, and then things gradually grow into true love. The initial infatuation is quite real, and not any kind of "image". The purpose of the infatuation is to create motivation to put down the effort required for true love. I don't think that kind of effort will come from nowhere, and the shallow, effortless, dating culture is quite unlikely to create true love.

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27 May 2019, 3:46 am

Absolutely; I see socializing with someone online as no different than socializing with them over the phone, although both are a bit behind person-to-person communication. It definitely helps with autistic relationships where you can converse much more eloquently and elaborately than you can verbally.

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27 May 2019, 5:14 pm

Kitty4670 wrote:

I love my boyfriend, I always said I love you in text. Now I don’t know anymore, I used to feel love for him, I want to be sure what Love is. He been my boyfriend for over 4 months now.

In your case w/him that's pretty much something only the 2 of you can know. Others more experienced than me however can perhaps tell you what love is supposed to feel like/look like.

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