Interested or Just Being Friendly?

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How can you tell the difference in situations involving a stranger?

I’m primarily asking as far as men being interested in women but feel free to share anything you think might be pertinent (or impertinent ).

I had sort of an odd experience last night that I think I misread.

can you describe what happened?

I was walking my dog in an alley and a guy around my age pulled over and briefly chatted with me about dogs. I have an 18 month old golden retriever and he has a 7 month old. It was an odd experience, in part, because of his body language. It’s hard to describe what I mean, actually. I’m shy and was basically just following a social script in my head.

Then he drove a few yards, stopped, and asked, if I would be interested in having her bred by his dog. I said that she couldn’t be because she was spayed. I said it with finality and he drove off.

He looked like a hip and modern but outdoorsy type.

Maybe he’s just really into dogs. Then again, there was something that felt distinctly odd, too.

At the time, I only thought he was interested in dogs.

The guy was too forward, in my opinion.

No decent guy would drive up to you like that in an alley.

I would ignore any man who drives up to you in a car....period.

So you think it was interest?

I would’ve thought that he was out of my league, actually.

Hmm. Did he ask any personal questions, or even your name, or give his name? If not, I think he was just inquiring. I used to get asked by guys (and women) frequently about breeding my dog while I was out walking him.

These days, I don't like the idea of anybody coming up to me in a car.

I'm not saying all those people have bad intentions----but you, as a pedestrian, are in a vulnerable spot.

I wouldn't be surprised if the guy was interested in you. He might not have had bad intentions. But the POTENTIAL is there.

I wouldn't talk to strangers who come up to me in a car. Not even me, a man---unless I can sense the strangers' intentions right away. I've been asked directions, and I've given them. But I stayed back. I made sure I wasn't within arm-length of any person in the car.

If you have trouble sensing people's intentions, I wouldn't talk to anybody who talks to you out of a car.

My dog would have read the situation and the man's vibe.

That being said, many people approached me about breeding my dog when he was young. It's common for dog owners.

You all have a better idea of this than I do. I would take the other peoples' advice here.

But I would still keep within six feet of the car when I'm talking to the person in the car. Maybe it's an urban, New York thing.....

My dog absolutely loves a nasty person, so I can’t go by that. With that being said, she didn’t express any interest in him, but he didn’t talk to her or interact with her in any way.

It felt sort of like he was testing the waters. I wasn’t being very friendly or chatty.

He also didn’t look at my dog much. Perhaps it was the extent of his eye contact and body language that made me think there was something else going on.

Do you wish that it was really interest?

No. I was just curious, actually.

Was he smiling broadly, leaning out the window, looking directly at your eyes/face,, did he ask anything about you as opposed to the dog?

He was leaning out of the window, looking directly in my eyes and smiling a little. I think he wanted to say more, but I was being reserved.

I think he might have been testing the waters instead of directly expressing interest if that makes any sense.

In what way?