Anyone just get really bad luck?

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Anyone just get really bad luck in the whole dating thing?

Like not knowing when someone likes you until one year later.
Like looking at someones profile on facebook and seeing that they have a picture of a kid labeled "my kid."
Like looking at someones profile and seeing that they are married.

Stuff like that etc etc.

Been there, done that. That's not a luck issue, that's a communication failure, either on their end or on yours. Still sucks.

...what's that got to do with anything?

This makes me wonder how well you even know them, if you don't know that they were married...

Sorry, I should have clarified everything.

I'm 20 by the way.....

The girl who is married is 17. She is my neighbor so I do know her. We don't live in a small town and that isn't common until you are like 23-24. It only says that on Facebook and she is a devout Christian so I honestly doubt the truth of what the facebook profile says. I messaged her about it anyway.

The other example the girl is 21. The kid looks to be around 2 so that means she must have had it around 19. Here I am thinking I will never date anyone who wasn't a virgin, and that would be lower my expectations to someone who has a kid.

Though, again I'm not completely 100% sure its hers. On the picture in Facebook it says "My baby" though.

Again, I know her but I didn't go around asking if she had a freaking kid or something.

Well, it should be pretty obvious if she isn't being truthful, or if she is. If you never see her with one particular guy, then it would be hard to believe that she's married.

If it is for some religious reason, or personal morality reason, that's something I can at least appreciate, even if I can't fully understand it.

If it is merely that they have a kid, you would risk missing out on getting to know someone incredible.

If you know her, and don't simply know of her, it would be surprising if you didn't know about her having a child. It would be unusual if she never mentioned it, even if only in passing. Same thing with the one that is married, it would be unusual for her to not mention doing something with (some guy's name,) or going somewhere with (same name,) or anything else of that nature. There's also the easy test of checking for a wedding ring.

UGH, I know both of them moderately well or I wouldn't even bother to be attracted to them.(WOW, that does sound arrogant)

The 17 year old is my neighbor and basically one of my younger sisters best friends. I've known her for about 3 years now I think and never once have I seen her with any guys. She is rather religious, I think the whole thing is a Facebook joke.

For the 21 year old, I don't really know her very well. I only had one class with her but I found myself strangely attracted to her. We were lab partners in a Chemistry class and we would just argue about everything. The day I left I told her I was going up to Michigan and leaving the University and I realized that something was wrong. Usually when I say that people nod their heads and say things like "Good Luck." But she put her head down and walked out of the room.

About 2 days later I heard her having a conversation with another guy in class and she said "Did you know he is leaving for Michigan? I can't believe he did this...." And the other guy said "I don't think he really understood that you liked him."

We were always arguing about everything, so I thought we hated each other. Man, I am so dumb. The signs were there, it was just so obvious. She even called me "honey" and the other girl next to us was making jokes about the two of us being a couple.

The virgin thing has nothing to do with religion- I just wouldn't want to date a girl who has had a different guy stick their (you know what) in them.

Probably right. Seems to be a common one, to list things that are blatantly false. I've seen several instances where two girls that are good friends list themselves as married, even though they were straight, and possibly even seeing guys at the time. Just as one example.


I don't consider much short of being directly told to be an obvious sign, so I wouldn't call that dumb.

Not much I can say about that. Like I said about the kid situation, what you risk with that sort of standard is passing up someone that may be perfect for you, and never even knowing it. I also won't sit here and tell you that I never had the same sort of feelings about such things myself. For quite some time I was convinced that I'd never possibly be able to be interested in a woman that already had a kid.

I consider myself unlucky on the whole...
Although I'm pretty sure atm there's a situation at hand that could go the right way for me...

The marriage thing was a joke with one of her friends.

Well well well

These females out there better stop joking pissing me off! Freaky idiots. Probably this life is just unlucky and left out. Here we here

It seems to be a widespread "joke," and they're likely only doing it because they think it is funny. I'm not sure why, it didn't ever really make sense to me...

Maybe its not for me, not a world and word for me?

How i believe that when i go to university to courage it? Maybe it a bad luck life for me aswell. I give up.

As for whether or not college is for you, the only way to find out is to give it a shot. You can't know how well or poorly it might go without trying. Goes with many things in life.

Well...either you take a chance and hope for the best, or you deny yourself that chance. Giving up guarantees that things won't change. Well, not entirely, but it is limiting it to something just happening to you. That means waiting around for something to happen....even though that day may never come.

Giving it a shot? Who knows, it could go far better than you ever imagined.

Well what if i give a shot and still doesn't work?

Then you have the same option: keep trying and have the chance of it getting better, or giving up and waiting for it to get better.

I consider it a better option to actively make an attempt to improve my life. Sitting around and waiting didn't do me many favors. At times it may hard to keep going, and at times you may "give up," but as long as that isn't permanent, then you can keep moving forward.

Well what i suppose to do when im unlucky? Gets nothing.

...the same thing I've said twice now. You sit down and wait for something that may never happen (you rely on luck), or you take action, and rely on yourself. If you don't consider yourself capable, you can work on that through trying. You can't work on it through doing nothing.