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skiddlebugz
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23 Jul 2019, 8:17 am

Hey everyone,
So not to long ago my boyfriend told me that he will be moving to Ohio. I sobbed when he told me because i know long distance will be hard. I keep thinking about it and how our future will turn out but I don't know what our next goal will be. I would love to move to Ohio when I have the money to go live there but I don't even know if he even wants me to be there. He never asked me to move with him so it's pretty confusing. I always told him I would move with him if he did move before he told me that.
My plans are a bit over the top but I do want to make a goal for us both to be together. Just very confusing with communication i guess since he had a disability as well.


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23 Jul 2019, 8:29 am

Communication is an important part of any relationship. So, yes, you should tell him.



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24 Jul 2019, 9:59 pm

You should talk about this with him, communicating is really important in relationships.

But... to be honest, I've moved to follow guys before when I was younger and it's never worked out well. So, definitely talk to him about how you're feeling. I wouldn't make any big decisions for now though.


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25 Jul 2019, 9:40 am

Thanks girls, I talked about it with him. He said maybe in the future but for now we can try long distance.


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25 Jul 2019, 12:10 pm

^ This is bad.

He pushed you away.



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25 Jul 2019, 12:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ This is bad.

He pushed you away.


I thought so too. I just don’t know if he even wants to be together after he moves. I feel like he’s using me as a temp placement


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25 Jul 2019, 12:34 pm

skiddlebugz wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ This is bad.

He pushed you away.


I thought so too. I just don’t know if he even wants to be together after he moves. I feel like he’s using me as a temp placement


I would ask him what he thinks of both of you seeing other people after he moves. That should give you some clarification.


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28 Jul 2019, 7:24 pm

He pushed you away, but yes continue to maintain communication with him.


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28 Jul 2019, 7:40 pm

Ooh. How difficult.
It depends how close you two are as an item. If he is close he either would not move, or he would bring you with him, or it would be a temporary job where he would want to earn to bring the money back so he can marry you etc, but if this was the case he would be very keen to reassure you, as the last thing he would want was to make you upset or for you to misstrust him.


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30 Jul 2019, 1:02 am

Luhluhluh wrote:
skiddlebugz wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ This is bad.

He pushed you away.


I thought so too. I just don’t know if he even wants to be together after he moves. I feel like he’s using me as a temp placement


I would ask him what he thinks of both of you seeing other people after he moves. That should give you some clarification.


Good idea.

What has been happening since, skiddlebugz?



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30 Jul 2019, 9:26 am

smudge wrote:
Luhluhluh wrote:
skiddlebugz wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
^ This is bad.

He pushed you away.


I thought so too. I just don’t know if he even wants to be together after he moves. I feel like he’s using me as a temp placement


I would ask him what he thinks of both of you seeing other people after he moves. That should give you some clarification.


Good idea.

What has been happening since, skiddlebugz?

We talked about time moving up there a few months after he moves. He thought it would be a good idea so we could live close by to each other. I feel more happy that he agreed about this because this is what I thought about doing. Wasn’t sure if he actually wanted that.


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31 Jul 2019, 8:18 pm

Have him move in w/you back in Texas, it has alot more to offer than Ohio. I went to college there, Ohio doesn't have much going for it.



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31 Jul 2019, 8:29 pm

breaks0 wrote:
Have him move in w/you back in Texas, it has alot more to offer than Ohio. I went to college there, Ohio doesn't have much going for it.
I'm curious as to why he's moving & would want to know before suggesting that he stay in Texas.


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