Why can criminals get a girlfriend easily, but I can't?

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It seems like guys who rape and kill people can easily get girlfriends, but I have trouble doing so.

Do we really need another "Bad Boys Have It Better" thread?

All I can to this topic is that any man or woman who chases after violent or chronic offenders is not someone I want to be involved with in my life, period.

Maybe the mods could ban this sort of thread, they do get very repetitive

I hate to be "that guy," but that kind of attitude where you are jealous of criminals is not going to get you far in the way of personal communication.

Some guys who rape and kill people can easily get girlfriends. Some guys who don't rape and don't kill people also can easily get girlfriends. You can't, but that's probably not because you don't rape and kill people.

Indeed, people who chase after the violent type are usually deeply emotionally unhealthy or as immoral as the people they're attracted to.

Neurotypical

extrovert

Personality

Demeanor

Charming

Most women like self-confidence and guys who don't show much anxiety towards other guys. Showing not much anxiety doesn't means to be like a bully. But women want guys who are self-confident enough to protect them and later the children too. That's why most women are into big or at least really self-confident guys who aren't afraid of other guys. Secondly they want guys who are able to care for a women and her kids as long as the woman needs to care for the children. That's why many are also after the money and success. At third they want to be cared and treated nice. Thats why many women like empathical guys but not at all wimps. There are also other common things regarding fitness and personality but there are also many individual preferences.
But what at all makes you attractive for women regarding the things above which really many women do care a lot?

So... a man must be confident, calm, protective, caring, supportive, respectful, kind, and loving to attract a woman.

He doesn't have to be a bully, a drunk, a religious fanatic, a tattooed punker, or a "redneck".

Whining, complaining, sarcasm, and a generally negative attitude will simply drive women away.

It all makes perfect sense to me.

I never once complained about punks getting girlfriends. My issues have only been with the religious fanatics, rednecks, ghetto thugs, and general “bad boys”.

For the guys that say why girls date criminals or "bad boys" have you ever considered that maybe those women(or women in general for that matter) might find it insulting that you would call the people they choose as their boyfriends "bad" or "criminals"?

Considering you wouldn't know the whole story behind their boyfriends, why would you pass judgement on that person(and indirectly the woman) for being together? I mean true there are sick people in the world but, there is really no way to know who they are unless you know that person personally and everything about them.

The only thing you accomplish with these kinds of threads is basically telling a woman that you are a judgemental person and being with a person you know might potentially judge you doesn't sound great(NT or Autism).

If they still want to stay with them they will anyway so in the end ranting or venting about what others have doesn't do anything.

I’ve known women who called their boyfriends “bad boys” and boasted about them being more fun than “nice guys”. If they have no problem using it, why is it such a horrible thing if I use it?

Criminals can just kidnap them.

Because a girlfriend calling their boyfriend a "bad boy" has a different connotation than some random guy calling them a "bad boy".

Many times when a girlfriend calls a guy a "bad boy" they don't mean they are abusive or criminals or what not, they usually are referring to him being confident, taking charge in life, and not afraid to take risks. Sort of like Michael Jackson song: "Bad". When people sing that song about themselves they are referring to their self-confidence and talent.

My girlfriend knows someone I'll call K(random letter that popped in my head that wasn't her initials). Anyways K has a long history of being with guys who use her for sex & money, take advantage of her in other ways, & some are even abuseive. My girlfriend told K 1ce that she should try to find a nice guy like me & K said they were too safe.

Yet it’s somehow ok to compare me to Elliot Rodger and say I am too “messed up” to have a relationship. I am sick of being compared to him and being told I should give up. I am not going to stop saying “bad boy”. Others can hate me for it but I am not going to stop just because they don’t like it.