"But a woman's number of options doesn't matter!"
Personality, intelligence and chemistry can not be found with chatting to random strangers online.
The best matches are found in real world interactions at school, work, church, through family/friends or hobbies/interests.
Dozens of online matches are to boost ego and attention seeking. Meeting up with random strangers is dangerous and should be avoided.
The best matches are found in real world interactions at school, work, church, through family/friends or hobbies/interests.
Dozens of online matches are to boost ego and attention seeking. Meeting up with random strangers is dangerous and should be avoided.
Unfortunately, not all of us have those avenues you mentioned to meet a significant other.
The best matches are found in real world interactions at school, work, church, through family/friends or hobbies/interests.
Dozens of online matches are to boost ego and attention seeking. Meeting up with random strangers is dangerous and should be avoided.
I've only ever met one person out of dozens offline. I really don't know what I would have done without the internet. I probably wouldn't be married right now.
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The best matches are found in real world interactions at school, work, church, through family/friends or hobbies/interests.
Dozens of online matches are to boost ego and attention seeking. Meeting up with random strangers is dangerous and should be avoided.
I've only ever met one person out of dozens offline. I really don't know what I would have done without the internet. I probably wouldn't be married right now.
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Indeed, if one is going to meet people online, forums are probably much better than dating services. Besides this forum, there are probably forums devoted to just about any conceivable hobby one might have.
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And 99% of them fall into the following categories:
-Lame middle-class straight guy with the personality of a glass of water
-Attractive and athletic "chad" types just looking for a booty call
-Chasers who don't see trans women as people, just accessories for their fetish
I get dozens of matches a day, talk to them for about five minutes each, and almost always I can clock them as one of those three types. And sometimes when I'm feeling daring, I'll tell a chaser "sure, you can f**k my tr***y ass but it's not going to be cheap, show me some benjamins", usually they unmatch me after that.
It's just basic sociology. Humans are a social animal, and to impress someone there's a personality filter you have to pass. And that goes for me too! I've had plenty of guys match with me because they liked my pics, and then not want to meet me because of my sh***y personality. It happens to women too.
Every day?
How much time are you wasting on dating rubbish?
I guess some people might use it to get attention, but that's not how everyone uses online dating. People do meet partners through it.
[/quote]Meeting up with random strangers is dangerous and should be avoided.[/quote]
Millions do this everyday without getting attacked. You meet in a public place.
You sound like one of these people who can't see any good in technology and who doesn't get the point of things like Instagram.
It's not all shallowness in internet-land. Some shallow people give it a bad name, but thetes genuine folks put there too.
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How much time are you wasting on dating rubbish?
Maybe like half an hour to an hour whenever I ride the bus? And it's not a total waste, but I've honestly gotten more sex the old-fashioned way (going to bars) then through dating apps. Internet boys have a tendency to chicken out before getting a chance to meet, bunch of chickens...
She knows her, you know you. When it comes to all other women, you are BOTH guessing.
So I fall back to doing what feels right to you. You can't be anything but yourself pursuing relationships, realistically, so why bother? Don't overthink it, just do what you feel inspired to do.
I realize I know NOTHING about modern dating with apps and what not, but some things don't change. Unless you enjoy playing games and have mastered them, don't even try. Just be you.
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The number of options didn't matter to me as much as the quality of the options. If I had received 500 messages and I didn't connect with anyone, I wouldn't have gone on any dates.
Your post proves boos point. You pick the quality men not the losers.
Most aspie men aren’t quality men, we the quantity that gets thrown away.
Most women look at my picture and swipe me away, the few who read my profile see I’m worthless and swipe me away. Very few read my profile, non message me or match with me.
I'm a little biased, but I think my ASD son is a quality man. He found a girlfriend the old fashioned way: real life. They started as friends and eventually realized they really wanted to date. They are actually both ASD; they bonded over that fact. It's why they became friends to start with.
When it comes to dating, the biggest barrier for most people lives in their heads.
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When it comes to dating, the biggest barrier for most people lives in their heads.
That's such an ignorant thing to say to people who have been rejected over and over again.
It's not us stopping ourselves, it's other people saying no to us!
We try and people always say no.
THEY SAY NO. not us.
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