I don't think anything here is dramatically 'off', but here are my $0.02 on how you might go about it more smoothly in the future.
1. Keep your initial message simple. Don't mesh together the opening line with the 'meat' of your conversation. People tend to like to take things slowly and in short doses.
2. Typically, if you are going to go in depth about something, it is best to wait until you are either asked directly, or if something related is brought up first.
Something more typical might go like:
Quote:
You: Hey, my name is DMA. Thank you for the compliment on my writing! Do you have any interests besides writing?
Her: Hey DMA. I like the way you write. I don't have a lot of hobbies, but I love my dog.
You: That's awesome. I’ve had dogs all my life.
Her: Do you have any dogs now?
You: Yes/no (sorry IDK if you do), but My favorite dog died almost two years ago, that broke my heart and another died shortly after. Losing two dogs in a year is one of the hardest things to go through. What type of dog do you have?
Her: I have a (type of dog) named (name). What were your dogs named?
You: The first one was a Collie and he was the sweetest dog I’ve ever met. He had health problems his entire life, he lived to be 12. We thought he wasn’t going to make it to 8. His name was Norman. The other dog was a Shetland Sheepdog. Ellie was a little feisty rascal and.a bundle of love.
One good thing about going about things this way is that it gives the other person a chance to engage and show you how they're feeling. Typically, people who like you will keep the conversation going by asking questions and adding to the conversation. When people don't like you, they often don't want to be rude, so they won't just say so. Instead, they will let the conversation die down organically and hope you 'get the hint'. Usually this will take the form of short answers and responses which don't present an opening to respond naturally.
I hope what I said makes sense and is helpful.
03 Sep 2019, 6:38 am
